yes, thank you....

you've 'reinforced' what my heart was struggling with....

Just being simple.....
I guess smiling thru tearfilled eyes pretty much says it all.

I will do just that.
I 'knew' I could count on you all. You never cease to amaze me.....

BlueMajo yes, I like that.....'see you soon'

Thank you all
Rae

say all that you feel! It is hard to lose someone but sometimes having time to know you can say something it wonderful.

from experience.... also give a BIG BIG BIG HUGGGGG saying thanks or love you... or again whatever you feel..... do not hold back

my sister died from Cancer... and about a week before I got to run down and stay there overnt with two of the kids... the one night.. she said she was tired and wanted to lie down early... I said go for it.. asked her if I could lay down with her.... those 20 minutes or so.. will always be in my heart.... I shared lots of feelings... and that I will be honored when she is at peace that she will be in Heaven with my baby Sabrina( I lost a baby full term 12 years ago)... she said her and her hubby had talked about Sabrina just few days before our talk.

hard to say those things sometimes... but she knew she was dying and I knew... share share... hugss,sarah

How sweet is that!

....pillow talk......


absolutely. THAT is exactly what i would want. I would love for my loved ones to just be 'ok' with it....be calm....talk about the 'good days'......talk about the wonderful new hope that exists for all of us.....like you said....
a 'reuniting' with others who have gone before us......your (((baby))).....yes
...and no more pain.

How touching
thank you l

Rae I am sorry to find the loss of brother is in your pocket. It is in my pocket too. and as you know... I just recently found my very close long time school friend is terminal. Thanks for starting this thread.
we have been talking allot lately about old times, times we were not in contact so much ... we talk about worries or wonder what it will be like. ending life in dignity . talk about how things are never fair .
sometimes I have dreams . I told her of a recent dream . and she said I made her cry. Now I feel bad. the dreams did not make me feel like crying. it made me feel comfort and connected .It was like I got to spend a very awesome time, with a sister I havent seen in a long time. ... that is what I told her too.
WAS THAT WRONG? insenitive ?? I didnt even think it would make her cry.
I youtube her songs I am sending her some wine. we are trading must read book suggestions. and plan to go visit her very soon. So what do you say to a dying person??????????
What do you say to a dying person who dose not want but a very few knowing they are dying ??

As a "former" hospice nurse, please know that the most important thing is letting them know they are loved, also that it is alright to "move on" to heaven when they are called. Sometimes they need that permission to move on. Dont be afraid to cry as you are starting a grievig process. Live review is also VERY important. Reminds you and your loved one that there have been many, good times and times you will remember.
z

I was going to add something like "everything is gonna be alright"

Thinking about you dear Rrae !!!

I did not realize you worked in Hospice!!
ANYBODY who works in Hospice deserves a HUGE appreciation HUG!

I've seen up close and first hand, the precious value there is in those who give their time to help the loved one during their last days.....not to mention the family members who are struggling and drained physically and emotionally as they come to terms with this very sad time...... priceless....

Thank you Pooh
Rae


....in memory

Tears say more things than any word....

Pure and true feeling...

I do appreciate when people make me cry... Priceless.

[QUOTE=Rrae;679111]I did not realize you worked in Hospice!!
ANYBODY who works in Hospice deserves a HUGE appreciation HUG!

I've seen up close and first hand, the precious value there is in those who give their time to help the loved one during their last days.....not to mention the family members who are struggling and drained physically and emotionally as they come to terms with this very sad time...... priceless....

Rae, I was a Hospice nurse until May, did homecare and hospice for 8 years here in the hills surrounding good ol nowhere. My old body hated the driving more then the hours on my feet. So I have given my bod a break (I think) and am now working in surgery and in acute care at a small hospital.
But I still remember how to do it, and how ever so important it is to tell your friends it is ok to go. Yet we get as much from the patients and their families as they get from our care and support.

Its just a thing I do in my spare min as SUPER NURSE.
Z

Oh Dear Rae-

I so do care for your family, for you, for your aunt in this situation. Such is the difficult task to bear, but you are equal for sure. Several times I have been there at bedside for my beloved paternal Grandma, my maternal Grandma, friends..... What have I said? Sometimes it has been in the nature of sitting and holding their hand when they needed it, kissing them for we both needed it, and sharing the profound way in which they have affected and are affecting my life, telling them I love them, sharing that it is OK for them to go into Jesus' hands for He is there beside them. Interesting, for I have had them reply to me not only that they knew Jesus was there, but that they could see Him [of course, these times of sharing are preceded by family willingness that my sharing be so open. Some have wishes otherwise, and I respect it].

Oh yeah, I cry and have cried. How could one not? Surely, it is in the open hearted sharing of emotion that we each are bound one to another, co-travellers on this difficult path called life. Oh, and hug, yep hug that loved one because I guarantee you both need it.

Sorry I am so late to this important thread of the quilt in your life, dear friend.
You are all in my prayers,
Mark56 z