Originally Posted by BarbaraBean

Hi
I have 2 sons whom past away, 1 in Oct 2010 & 1 in Feb 2013. They were both 36 when they died. I am divorced & me & my ex each paid for a sons funeral & each were cremated. Both my sons *did not* get along with their father at all.
I have both of their ashes & I'd like to have them buried in my family cemetary plot, which is about 150 miles away from him. I am not sure what my options are; do me & my ex have to agree on a cemetary or can I place the ashes in my family plot & tell my ex where they are; should I offer my ex half of the ashes? I plan on having a small family memorial service without my ex. I thought once I placed my sons' ashes & have the memorial service then, he can have his own memorial service (If he wishes). Any suggestions would be very helpful. Thank you.