Dianne, please remember that we are always here to listen to you without making any judgments.

If ever you want any suggestions (your call) you have only to ask.

thank you for being there I just find it helpful to vent as I am not able to talk to the kids as I am trying to be strong for them but I feel so lonely without jeff all I have done today is cry I miss him so much I hate feeling this way all I want is for him to come back

My name is Debi and I live in the state of Georgia in the US.

I lost my husband of 35 years 2 years ago this past August. He was only 58.

I could not have gotten through his passing without this group of caring people. They listened to whatever I had to say.

I'm 55, have 2 grown children and 5 grandchildren. I still don't see where I'm headed in life. But I'm NOT giving up.

Due to my severe SFN and other issues everyday is a struggle. I wake up and look over hoping to see Bubba but he's not there. He's in my heart and soul and I can feel that.

Bless you sweet lady. Remember the good times with Jeff and lean on us wherever you need to.

Debi from Georgia

thank you Debi for your kind words I am struggling, like you I still look on the other side of the bed expecting him to be there, I put my arm out and I don't find him there it hurts so much, I just feel so lost everyone said it will get easier but I don't know I know it has only been 3 weeks it hurts every day.

Hi Diane, I glad to read Debi has reached out, when I read your first post. Debi immediately came to my mind; that & Bubba's flannel shirt. People say it gets easier; but I believe your mind and body just become stronger & more adept to negotiating life day by day. Time passes, but you don't forget, the pain just becomes a little less & not in a time span you can measure or say by this time I will be. Everyone is different. I hope you have family & friends you can turn to, I pray your children in their sorrow are still a comfort to you.

Hi Pam thank you for your kind words I have family that are trying to help but when they all leave I just feel so lonely I just hate feeling this way it hurts so much I know that time will help but time seems to pass so slowly.

Hi Dianne, time does pass so slowly in excruciating seconds / minutes when you're in mourning. My fiancé committed suicide many years ago, we hadn't forged a life so my pain was different to yours but I do remember how I felt and how people were uncomfortable to mention his name.

Yes it would be hard when everyone has gone home, your house and everything in it represents the life you had. I hope you can continue to talk about Jeff with your family & friends, keep his memory alive, treasure all the good times and the love you shared. From your opening words it clear yours was a life filled with love. Some people choose to plant a tree or plant, they tend to it and watch it grow, I'm not sure if that's you, but it's something I know people do?