well i found housing help they are going to pay for a hotel for 2 to 3 wks after my surgery then help me get an apt or home still no one to stay with me tho but i guess im sued to being alone god will send me someone im sure and if not i know he will be there thank you for your prayers i go in mon for the 2nd mri of the other part of my spine to see if i need a2nd surgery my daughter is terified that ill die my poor angel i tryed my best to reasure her that even if i didnt wake up i would be dead because i live in her heart always and id still b with her every day but shes 9 so its hard for her no i still havent figured out the mail lol but i will try again thank you all for careing it means so much

I'm so glad to hear you have a place to stay and help finding an apt. That part of the prayers were answered!! As for help, check with the hospital for volunteers, there are lots of retired nurses or just kind souls that will help for free, you just need to get the word out and just maybe.... fingers crossed. Even if its someone to check on you, sit with you, help you wash your hair or bring you food. Is there a meals on wheels program? Or someone that can bring you food while you are unable to drive? Try to find some of these kind friends before your surgery. I would definately start with a counsillor or hospital volunteer list.

Thinking of you... still praying for you!

Cathie

Your hospital should have a patient advocate group. They can and do help you to find a companion to help you while you recover. It is indeed important to try to find an extra hand. I so wish I could be there for you to give my own hands to help. Ask at church too, even if you don't go regularily. There are also womens centers, which may help you too. I know how scared yor 9 year old can be. Just having another adult around the house for a few days should help alievate her fears too. Please be good to yourself. I am here to talk to anytime you need to. I care. ginnie

i have to go for a heart aultrasound tomorrow the dr said i wont need any help after ill be walking right after surgery? i dont think that that sound right tho?

You will be walking, but not steady, and no strength! You WILL need help. (damn doctors, if they had to experience their own surgeries things would be different). I wasn't allowed to drive until my hard collar was off, you won't be able to lift grocery bags, etc... Please try and get help set up. You will need some. You will be very tired, sore and weak for a while. Also, have some sore throat lozenges and soft foods on hand for the sore throat.


Cathie

I have you in my prayers and am thinking of you. On your profile you said they moved surgery up to the 30th of Jan. I am and we all are sending prayers that all goes well and things get fixed. Please let us know how you are when you are able to.We Care and Love you .
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thank u fro your prayers idk how i feel rt now yet except the same but different i guess i only slept 6hrs in 3 days im so tired but just cant sleep i have internet at all tymes now so i can check this more

[You are in my prayers too. I am glad you found this site where we gather for strength. I hope you sleep better tonight. ginnie

Yes you need to be taking it EASY!!!!! I just had a look at the pic you have of your recovery. you need to try to rest and sleep .I have to cook and eat but I will wirte ot you on your profile like i did before okay so check there later tonight. I hope you can feel our caring positive thoughts and prayers Angel
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i am haveing a hard time resting walking the lortabs did nada so they changed um to perks i dont think they r doin much either i am still only sleeping 3 or less hrs i dont getthat at all either gettin frustrated i still have the same pain plus the surgery pain i ko its only been a few days but i truely dont feel better at all i feel worse almostim so exaused but i cant sleep my throught hurts and i got heart burn so bad i almost cryed last night idk if i am saying the right thing to the drs idk if i am explaining things wrong or what i hate pain pills im scared im gonna o d im righting everything down when what time what i eat with it everything im normaly paranoid anyway but this is becomeing a lil much i think i cant bearly walk to the office at the hottel i got to stop like 4 times b4 i even get there o and when i went in for the surgery i was already to go a lil nervous but i was ok but then they took me in the back and told me that after i was under they would put in a breathing tube and cathitor and i freaked out i had a panic atack was balling my eyes out i wasnt prepared for that at all i have ptsp from being raped and i just lost it when they said that to me i still feel dirty and get upset just knowing someone was down there while i was passed out i need help letting that go cus its freaking me out killin me i dont ko who did it where i as when they did it who else saw it it might sound dumb but im so upset over it that no one told me until i was there htat it was going to happen