[windsong]

I do not usually talk about this to people but this seems to be a place of understanding and kindness. I sometimes get depressed but my partner gets so very depressed that I dont know how to help him. When he is depressed he just wants to stay in bed and be alone and not even talk or tell me what is wrong. When I try to comfort or talk it seems to only upset him and then I start to feel depressed too. He does not get mad only very sad. He says he has been like this since he was a child. He does not want to take medicine because he says it made him feel strange. I love him and I want to comfort him when he feels so sad and so I feel so unable to help him and that is making me more depressed. I would like to be able to get him to join a group like this but he will not because he is a very private person. But I think talking about how he is feeling may help him get better. I wish he would find a support group. Thank you for listening.

[Curious]

hello windsong and welcome to neurotalk.

having a depressed partner is tough. it has to affect you too. i'm glad you found us.

i hope he will find the support he needs. maybe through you coming here. it might feel safe kwim?

[Idealist]

It's very nice to meet you. What a pretty name you've chosen for yourself. Five years ago I was a very private person, just like your partner. But being private often means being lonely, and after my illness began I became so lonely that it was virtually unbearable. So I began "lurking" on sites like this, not becoming a member at first, but just reading about other's experiences. Eventually I worked up the encouragement to join one group, and I have to say that when I posted my very first post, and someone answered it with honest sincerity, it really made me feel better right away.

Now I've become a firm believer that talking about your problems with people who understand is one of the best ways to find help for yourself. It makes you feel normal again to be so understood. For your partner's sake, and for yours, I sure hope you can get him to open up a little. Maybe if you could just get him to read the posts for a while it will kindle an interest in him. Whatever happens, I certainly wish you both the very best of luck...

Idealist