Koala...please know that I am thinking of you.

Koala I hope you are getting your sleep and eating .Keeping you tight in my prayers and thoughts.
I am off to send my prayers and wonders to the star lit sky outside know your in them Anne.
PEACE
BMW

Thank you one and all!

I haven't taken the first dose of the anti depressant Efexor yet because I'm still reading up on the medication, and I'm not overly impressed with all those nasty side effects.

I'm not convinced that the cure is better than the disease at the moment, so I'll give it a bit more time while I do a bit more research.

Please know that I am so very grateful for your support.

(((Anne))) I think your sister has taken advantage of your kind and forgiving nature...you let her get away with the abuse and so she takes advantage of it. She can "count on you" to react..it gives her power over you in a strange kind of needy way...in my opinon.

that's not a nice way to treat anyone, let alone a family member. Like Moose said, I'd distance myself from her...you have enough grief in your life without taking on more.

Just because we are related to some people, we don't have to like them.
And we certainly don't have to be their whipping board.

You deserve better.

You're all so very kind to me, and I truly appreciate your words of support.

I have a lot to think about over the next few days and I'll reply to your posts when I've had more time to get my thoughts together, but I wanted you to know that I'm not ignoring your kindness.

Thank you again. Hugs to all of you.

Anne

I agree with all the excellent advice and suggestions you've been given here. Unfortunately, you can't make your sister act like you want her to. She's going to have to come to that decision on her own. You know you've done nothing to warrant her behavior - or her hurtful actions. Even though it's hurting you it's her problem. That sounded harsh and I didn't mean for it to.... I guess what I'm trying to say here is that she is the one that's behaving badly.....she is the one who has unjustly alienated you....and even though it's hurting you - she is the only one who can remedy the situation. And she chooses not to. Now, whether she is in the right mind frame to make that decision is very questionable.

You're a sweet, kind-hearted person, Anne. There's no question about that. And you know in your heart that you've done nothing wrong or to justify this behavior by her. Like everyone has said...as hard as it may be...you're just going to have to cut her loose and take care of yourself and your family and not feel guilty for doing so. Your family needs you - and you deserve to enjoy that grandbaby and the other members of your family without that cloud hanging over your head.

You're in my prayers, Anne. You're always thinking and praying for others here....let us do that for you now.

Sending you a warm hug this beautiful morning!

Ummm, guess you're probably asleep, but you can get it when you wake up!

we love you, Anne.

hold on tight to that, and don't let the _____ drag you down, honey!

Koala ((( Anne))

I am so sorry to hear all of what you are going through. I can only share with you what I had to do with a family member who was ...well the best word is ..poison to me.

I had to try to look at it, like this person was a cancer to me.
As you well know - if you have cancer, you do not coddle it, wait around for it to do more damage! You cut it out as fast as you can to save yourself! I DO know how hard this is to do, but...if she is this bad for you, please consider it..and know we are all here to help you through all of this

Thank you everybody. Each and every one of you are very special to me, and I thank you for your replies.

I wanted you all to know that I am actually feeling OK at the moment. I do however tend to cry a lot at the at the moment at the least little thing, so I guess that's a bit of a tell tale sign of depressison isn't it? At the same time, I do feel a little better than I did few days ago.

My DH & I have booked a short holiday interstate at the end of this month. I have met some wonderful people on the Internet, some of whom I have now met in person but a lot I haven't. DH decided that it was time I met one of my long term Ozzie MS Internet friends face to face, and he's booked this short break so that I can finally meet her. Her & I have been typing for about a year and a half now, so it will be wonderful to finally meet her.

This trip will also give us the opportunity to visit my DH's mother, who is in a home for dementia patients in that same state. We haven't seen her for about 5 years, and she's in her 80's now.

I think this short break away is just what we need, and I'm really looking forward to it.

I'll keep you up to date as it all gets a bit closer!