You're all so very kind to me, and I truly appreciate your words of support.

I have a lot to think about over the next few days and I'll reply to your posts when I've had more time to get my thoughts together, but I wanted you to know that I'm not ignoring your kindness.

Thank you again. Hugs to all of you.

Anne

I agree with all the excellent advice and suggestions you've been given here. Unfortunately, you can't make your sister act like you want her to. She's going to have to come to that decision on her own. You know you've done nothing to warrant her behavior - or her hurtful actions. Even though it's hurting you it's her problem. That sounded harsh and I didn't mean for it to.... I guess what I'm trying to say here is that she is the one that's behaving badly.....she is the one who has unjustly alienated you....and even though it's hurting you - she is the only one who can remedy the situation. And she chooses not to. Now, whether she is in the right mind frame to make that decision is very questionable.

You're a sweet, kind-hearted person, Anne. There's no question about that. And you know in your heart that you've done nothing wrong or to justify this behavior by her. Like everyone has said...as hard as it may be...you're just going to have to cut her loose and take care of yourself and your family and not feel guilty for doing so. Your family needs you - and you deserve to enjoy that grandbaby and the other members of your family without that cloud hanging over your head.

You're in my prayers, Anne. You're always thinking and praying for others here....let us do that for you now.

Sending you a warm hug this beautiful morning!

Ummm, guess you're probably asleep, but you can get it when you wake up!

we love you, Anne.

hold on tight to that, and don't let the _____ drag you down, honey!

Koala ((( Anne))

I am so sorry to hear all of what you are going through. I can only share with you what I had to do with a family member who was ...well the best word is ..poison to me.

I had to try to look at it, like this person was a cancer to me.
As you well know - if you have cancer, you do not coddle it, wait around for it to do more damage! You cut it out as fast as you can to save yourself! I DO know how hard this is to do, but...if she is this bad for you, please consider it..and know we are all here to help you through all of this

Hello, Anne...

I haven't really been following your story, but when I read this post I found so much of what you were describing touching me in many ways. I've been through experiences very similar to yours lately, in nature if not exactly the same. Like everyone else I hate to say this, but you need time away from your sister, and maybe a lot of time. With your health problems, the constant emotional pain and disruption you are going through will only continue to lessen your ability to live with everything else. I wish you the best in dealing with all of this. I know how hard it is, especially when it involves someone who you really love. But you have to remember that you can't love someone else into loving you. I've tried and tried, and it simply doesn't work. Good luck, Anne.

I'm here too, Anne, right next to you. It's a very painful transition to make when we finally let the truth sink in and admit that the relationship is no good for either of the two.

After letting go of someone who genuinely meant the world to me, even months later, I still care about and love that person. But, when we're not emotionally equipped to take the routine beatings, it's time to jump ship.

I understand that you want to try to kick this on your own, but don't forget that the MS can also cause a chemical reaction that only amplifies the situation. Maybe you could try the meds on a short-term basis to help you leap this first hurdle.

At any rate, you know that you have our unconditional, never-ending support right here. Come often and hammer it all out so you can sleep and live your life.

Thank you everybody. Each and every one of you are very special to me, and I thank you for your replies.

I wanted you all to know that I am actually feeling OK at the moment. I do however tend to cry a lot at the at the moment at the least little thing, so I guess that's a bit of a tell tale sign of depressison isn't it? At the same time, I do feel a little better than I did few days ago.

My DH & I have booked a short holiday interstate at the end of this month. I have met some wonderful people on the Internet, some of whom I have now met in person but a lot I haven't. DH decided that it was time I met one of my long term Ozzie MS Internet friends face to face, and he's booked this short break so that I can finally meet her. Her & I have been typing for about a year and a half now, so it will be wonderful to finally meet her.

This trip will also give us the opportunity to visit my DH's mother, who is in a home for dementia patients in that same state. We haven't seen her for about 5 years, and she's in her 80's now.

I think this short break away is just what we need, and I'm really looking forward to it.

I'll keep you up to date as it all gets a bit closer!

Hi Dear Anne,

I have been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing?
I am so glad you are planning this little get away, it will be so good
...refresh the soul! Do take care of you, and know I am here if you
ever want to just talk Nikki