I am in such a conundrum (had to look that word up for (sp?) and definition...lol). You know how when you are having a good day and some one catches you on that day, you will almost say yes to anything, because you fell good (well maybe only I do this), well I did do this. My pampered chef consultant got me on a good day. I scheduled a cooking show with her for this Friday. Thing is this week hasn't been good. I had a 24-36 hour flu or something on Sunday and Monday. Today I look around my house, and while I am up, I have noticed things that haven't been cleaned in my house for probably 6 months. Parents know, kids hand prints on the walls and glass windows, looks like my dust could be good ole "southern lace", my baseboards need washed, rooms need vacuumed, etc.

This project is to much for me to handle right now. It looks gigantic. I know that comes with the depression as much as it does with anything, so do I cancel my party. I have 5 people who have responded as coming. I could tell them just to order online.

I guess more than anything I just wanted to post because I am so stressed out to see my house look like it does. It makes me cry that I let things get this out of hand, but yet I don't feel like I can do anything about it. What a waste of life...

M

I can relate somewhat to the situation. Was in a flare, then after I started feeling better, I tried some light housecleaning (mostly waving a feather duster around and sweeping up any dust bunnies that were larger than the dog ), and guess what? I'm back in Flare-ville!

If you think you will feel ok for the party, then go ahead with it but don't worry about the housekeeping. Maybe if one of your guests is a really good friend he/she can come early and tidy a little for you?? Maybe only have them tidy the kitchen because you'll be needing that and shut the doors on any rooms you won't be using so the other guests won't see them?

But if you suspect you're not gonna be up for the party regardless of whether or not anything gets done to the house (the world will not end if you don't clean), the considerate thing to do would be to cancel and let everyone know ASAP. I know it's frustrating to not be certain how you'll feel on a given day, but hey, you have fibromyalgia, so you have to go with your best guess. If you do end up canceling, can you co-host a party with someone sometime so you can still have the experience but not have to do it all yourself?

I really hate what fibro does to the social life. I ended up going to a family get-together Sunday with a migraine. I didn't want to cancel because there were people visiting from out of town that I hadn't seen in four years, but I was so out of it I could barely form a sentence.

Hope something in here helped.

fanfaire

fanfair

After crying all day, I thought about calling a friend just to talk to. She has been through the whole depression cycle and knows what it is like to have bad days. So I cried on the phone to her for a while and she did exactly what you said a good friend would do. She and her daughter are coming over a couple hours before the show to help me clean.

Thing is, I feel like I need to clean before she gets here, cause I don't want her to see how bad my house is. How wacked it that!

Crying is the only thing I have done today.

Hoping for a better tomorrow...

BTW I love your location...I did get one show watched today and it was "Little House on the Prairie"

M

I so totally understand. I try and keep up as best I can but my husband can mess up faster than I can clean. I have learned not to care so much. But I am also embarrassed to show people my home.
Go fig!

I have learned through the school of "hard Knocks' just how easy it is to say NO anymore. The church just called and asked if I could work in the kitchen and help set up for a 3 dy Church breakfast over the holiday wkend.

I said NO; I'd really like to, but I'm just not up to all that standing and running around. She said...OH, OK! Slam dunk! Done.

You could always tell your 5 people that you will get a brochure to them and have a "book party". That way they can order something if they like, and your consultant gets a party. Plus, you can have a book party for a couple wks or as long as you want to show the book around.

Hope you feel better soon. My FM has been kicking me a little in the tail lately, too. take care...

Boy do I ever know how you feel! On the good days you almost feel you can conquer the world then enevitably a flare comes on. But. for me I've learned to say no if I have to or I ask for help also I realized that a person can only do what they can do. I wish you luck and success with your party.