OMG no DebbieD, that is not the way everyone grows old. I'm praying for better for us all.

Not sure you already have the service; but the Life Alert Service is a Godsend. My sister-in-law, as well as my brother both have this service. It is peace of mind for yourself, as well as family members knowing there is help asap. Life Alert is waterproof so.....bathtubs were thought out in advance.

It is difficult not to have fear; but as I listened to a sermon last year, the main theme was ...if we have fear....it is not from God. God gives us hope. The fear comes from - you know who ... wants us to be hopeless and full of despair. We have to give him "hell". Pun intended.

(Ger)

Amen, Ger!!!

But when we are experiencing the debilitating effects of disease like MS, it is difficult not to be at least cognizant of what might lie ahead for us if we continue to decline.
It saddens me that my DH is along for the ride...he deserves a hot chick on his arm, not an overweight woman limping like his dad...

It is very difficult indeed. I try not to go there as much as possible. When I do, I just get more depressed and am making the days ahead, that have not yet happened, already here. My husband came over as I was doing some cleanup after lunch today (unable to make the nice lunch and dinners I once made) and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I know in his way, he was saying "thank you".


I still do the laundry and try to smile and give his life some enjoyment. Of course, I can't always be that way; but it does help to get myself off the "pitty pot" at least for a little while and see the smile on his face.

(Ger)

I try (don't always succeed) to live by what my Mom often used to quote:

"Hope for the best,
Get ready for the worst,
And take what God sends."

Hoping for the best means to me focusing as best as I can on the blessings, the things I CAN do, the good things in life, and assuming the worst WON'T happen.

Getting ready for the worst means not dwelling on it, but sometimes taking stock of the possible that COULD happen: if I became unable to do stairs, could we put in a chair lift? If I became unable to drive, does the rural transportation bus go by the house? Will the vet make house calls? But try to think constructively, not in crippling fear.

Then live each day, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, and try to make the best out of the life I have.

As I said, I TRY to do that. Sometimes I fail. Then I try again.

OK you guys, since I started this darn thread and put you all in a worrisome, downer mood, I feel it's my duty to tell ya all to cheer up and get over yourself Scarlet...tomorrow is another day..