Hi Sally

No words, just a HUGE . I think you have just put into words what so many of us fear for the future.

Be gentle with yourself - a good friend of mine who has made it to 86 years of age (and has had MS since her mid-thirties) said to me that she looks for beauty every single day - in nature, and in people - and that is what keeps her going despite all her challenges.

Lyn

(((( Sally ))))

Me too. Sigh.

Wow Lyn, 86 and still going. Thanks for sharing that.. What an inspiration she is..and you..

Sally,
I watch my elderly inlaws decline every day, watching them wet and soil themselves. FIL wears his food all over the front of his shirt. She has her clothes on inside out and backwards. He can barely get out of his WC.

As I watch them, I know that all of us, ill or no, will end up like this if we live long enough. I look at all of the elderly in their facility, and imagine them young and vivacious as we are (or were). Inside every elderly person struggling to stay independent is a 20 year old...

I guess my best advice is to live in the moment...try to stay strong physically and mentally. And when the time comes, and it will for all of us who live long lives, we either plan ahead financially to live in a facility or we live with family.

You seem to be doing the best you can, fighting against the pull of weakness and frailty...keep up the good fight!!

OMG no DebbieD, that is not the way everyone grows old. I'm praying for better for us all.

Not sure you already have the service; but the Life Alert Service is a Godsend. My sister-in-law, as well as my brother both have this service. It is peace of mind for yourself, as well as family members knowing there is help asap. Life Alert is waterproof so.....bathtubs were thought out in advance.

It is difficult not to have fear; but as I listened to a sermon last year, the main theme was ...if we have fear....it is not from God. God gives us hope. The fear comes from - you know who ... wants us to be hopeless and full of despair. We have to give him "hell". Pun intended.

(Ger)

Amen, Ger!!!