Laura, I was discussing on another thread the difficulty of going from being an active achiever to running at half speed. I was able to hang on at my job for years because they allowed me to go on 2/3 contract (I was a community college teacher). I had no dx until just after I had to go on disability. As with your employer, no one understood at all, and my situation was as bad as yours, as I had no dx. People thought I was a freak if I went in the lady's room and lay down, or just put my feet up and closed my eyes, but I had to do this to make it through the day. I became a "second class" person because of my needs. And I had to quit suddenly...still without a dx, although the dx came quickly then, and no one even said goodbye. I had inconvenienced them. I am still sad about it,
and about so many things I lost, and having become a widow I am now burdened with that loss as well, and also with grief thinking how much my husband helped me and gave up to be with me.