Dej, it's not MS that changed your dream, it's your DH's fear of pulling your RV Instead of him saying he is concerned about pulling something as big as an RV he is making MS the excuse

We have a 30ft 5th wheel which we bought new in 2004. My DH had never pulled a 5th wheel before and he admitted it scared the crap out of him. Over the years he has gotten used to the size, although he still has trouble backing it up .

You could still travel...by car. You could rent a Motorhome and see how that feels to him.

Sounds like he was afraid to drive it and was blaming the MS. (I'd probably do the same thing. Driving anything bigger than a minivan scares the crap out of me)

Maybe you can rent a smaller RV and go somewhere close by on a "practice" vacation? If that goes ok, and if your RV doesnt get sold right away before then, you can take it off consignment and then go somewhere.

Did your husband go to any classes on driving something that big? Can he take a class on driving it and maybe then he'd feel better about driving it. It might be that the stress of driving something that big, plus the stress of worrying that you'd get somewhere and flare combined is what was keeping him from taking you somewhere?

I know its HIS issue, but he is using MY issue as his excuse, and if I didnt have MS, our lives would be marching forward, as planned. I have friends that have offered to teach him, OR i could have driven it. I drive fire engines for silly sake, and could easily pull that bad boy, but each time I scheduled an outing he would say "youre sick! you shouldnt be doing that! what if you get dizzy or cog fog behind the wheel?!" so...MS does play into it. Yes, he is using it as HIS way out, but still...if you chase the rabbit round the tree, you come back to "if I didnt have MS to start with, I would be pulling the thing."

silly disease. just silly.

Some trips in the car sound good, especially as you are able to take your turn at the wheel.
You ought to plan a couple of trips to places you wanted to see, staying in motels. My husband and I traveled that way. The last years it wasn't for fun, it was because our housing situation got perilous due to fires and insurance problems with FEMA and so forth.
But we got to travel a lot before we had to hunker down to a live of survival. And traveling is my best memories...to Greece, England, Hawaii together, to the Phillipines and Tokyo alone (he went on a business trip separate from my trip to Japan). I would take a trip to Australia to visit a dear friend there if I could but too expensive now. She has Porphyria as I do and we could hold each other up while seeing the local sights.

without the trailer payment, and insurance on us, we can afford more than we have been doing.

We do plan on some local trips and test the waters. Perhaps branch out a bit each time we have a success.

its like I told him tho, even without MS there was never a guarantee that I would be able to go anywhere at anytime. I could have sprained an ankle, chipped a tooth, got the flu, had breast cancer return...we only have today, and I think getting out of here would do my mental health a world of good. I think having MY bed to sleep in, eating off MY dishes, and watching MY tv from MY couch would have been great. Using MY shower, and MY soap not some strange hotel that may or may not have washed the tub.

Its at the consignment lot now, and its a race day weekend, so TONS of folks will be coming by that place. I am ready for it to be done and over. Move on from this 5 year night mare of begging to take it some place. At least with it gone, we can make plans and stop looking at the thing in the driveway each day. it really was a visual reminder each day of what I was missing out on.

So it's an RV trailer not a motorhome I take it that it's an RV trailer.

Your husband is possibly using your MS as an excuse not to pull the trailer as others have suggested. If he has never pulled anything like that before it can be a feat. We have done it forever be it RV trailers, motorhomes and the like. We are both from the farm many years ago now so no big deal for either of us.

Dej, I'd look at it as freedom from a burden that wasn't giving you any pleasure. I mean really.....how often can you take something like that out? There would be so much that had to be done just to go away for a weekend. And then coming home.....I'm sure there were things you'd have to do in order to park it for a while. Seems like too much "stuff" to be enjoyable (to me, at least). I'm worn out just thinking about it!

The suggestion of renting a motorhome - if you really want to do the "on the road" thing - sounds so much easier. And more cost efficient.

Now you'll have whatever money was tied up in that thing to do whatever you want. I'm seeing this as an opportunity for lots of memories to be made!