Thanks for your reply Judy. I do use cooling aids....an ice pack packed stuffed in my bra works wonders!

I believe that my friend is more blatant about her dismissing and her ignorance because of her mental illness...in general she has no real sense of empathy. And I know that....it just chaps me sometimes when I'm feeling esp vulnerable...like moving in 108 degrees. But I will get thru it. And I have taken time off from most of the people who do that to me. In fact, I didn't speak with her for a year because of her behavior.
I really appreciate your thoughts so thank you.
janet