Actually, when I said "Ask for help?? Who??" I was quoting Judy. There have been several times when I would have willingly have asked for the physical help I needed, but there was nobody to ask. And I agree, Judy, anger and despair in such a situation is natural and rational. I'm glad you're talking about it here, too. My own experience with this sort of anger is that talking about it, bringing it into the air, helps to validate it, making it less corrosive and helping me to move on. If I don't do this I get stuck in the anger, and then it is damaging.

Chris