Thanks to all of you, I knew you would understand, it is very hard to have MS and I always try to remember it could be worse, I will try the depends and diaper wipes but only when I go somewhere, but that won't be to often anymore. I think I want to stay at home. I'm sure I will get over this as time goes on.

oh honey,
pooch, i'm so sorry. i do understand and i'm sorry MS has impacted your life in such a way.

your dh sounds like a dream.
please don't give up.

I can remember a time when my MIL was still alive and wasn't wheel chair bound at the time but still pretty slow. She was one who thought you had to have a bowel movement every single day like clock work. She had no patience with a laxative. If she hadn't done her daily constitutional by 8 AM she would take some milk of magnesia. Well if no movement by 10 she would take something else. So we took her to Walmart one day. She loved to go costume jewelry shopping. After we got in the store she realized all the medicines were working n her. So I tried to rush her back to the bathroom as quick as I could. Well it didn't work. I mean as soon as she hit the door, no where close to the stalls yet, she had her pants down and she was going all over the floor, her pants, her legs, everything. And they were just all looking at me, not my MIL like how could I have allowed that to happen and what in the world was I going to do about it. Or at least this is what I imagined from their looks. I did the best in cleaning her up, asked her to stay in the stall, thank heavens for handicap stalls that are bigger, husband was outside waiting for me and I asked him to go buy a pair of sweat pants for her. I told her what her son was doing and she refused to wear them. She was not a woman who spent her money on things she didn't think she needed. She told me that we were going to walk out of that bathroom with our heads high and go to the front door. So that is what we did. I did have my jacket right behind her so that one couldn't see the mess but we walked right out of that store with our heads held high.

I learned a lot over the years from my mentally ill MIL

Doydie,
Wow...you're a gem for allowing MIL to exit the store the way she wanted to...it's so hard to deal with the elderly when they have their minds set, even though we know the "right" way to deal with a situation.

It's amazing how many of us deal with these types of sxs with MS...and yet, we "look so good" to the outside world. Even my DH doesn't know the problems I really have with bodily functions--it's so humiliating to me that I don't want to share even with him when I have accidents.

It's weird how many of us also downplay these things too...I was talking to a neighbor who has MS. She told me her only real sx is foot drop. I was discussing having bathroom issues, and she said she has both kinds of bathroom problems as I do. So why does she think that foot drop is her only sx then? IMHO bathroom issues are much more limiting than foot drop...

Glad we all have this place to share...it really is so isolating thinking you're the only one who deals with these things...too bad we all have these things in common...

out of curiosity. Anyone know what kind of diaper to buy a 70something year old man who is having issues with making it to the bathroom? My dad has been having issues, and I'm wondering what to get him to hopefully help him not get messy, and keep my mom from screaming at him because she's the only person capable of cleaning up after people making a mess here now. (my dad doesn't have MS, he's just getting older, and isn't as fast as he used to be). My mom really screamed at him this morning. I don't like that. He couldn't help it.

My husband knows when I tell him that I NEED TO GET HOME, that he better get home. And when he unlocks the door, let me in first

We bought the Sams adult diapers I think they are the same as Walmart's brand. I'm not sure how well they work for people who actually change them as needed. My MIL used them while she lived in her apartment and didn't change them as often as needed, sometimes only a couple of times a day, if that.

I think I'll suggest some diapers to my dad. I think he'd feel better that way, even if it means wearing diapers. It might not make him feel so stressed out...and our floors would stay cleaner.