My uncle whose house we bought at the beginning of this year, moved out last month following my sinus surgery. He had retired and was heading out to Washington to stay with his brother and sister-in-law.

Friday he was killed by a drunk driver, the other driver's blood alcohol was almost five times the legal limit for Washington state which sets it at 0.08. My aunt was with him at the time and was badly injured but thankfully not critically.

Since Saturday evening though I have had a terrible headache, rampant insomnia, I don't think I've been able to sleep more than an hour or two at a time and extremely weak. I know everything could also be attributed to depression. But the worse part is, I keep forgetting that it's happened.

I mean, I'll be laughing, having fun, making plans for Christmas and then suddenly remember my mom crying and shaking while she told me her brother was gone, to the point that it feels like I'm losing both my body and my mind.

Help...

Starznight, all of that is normal, but you do need to continue to acknowledge your emotions and feelings. Big hugs out to all of you and your family. Ohm how did the drunk driver do? It usually seems to be that they are unscratched an everyone else is hurt real bad or even worse such as in your situation. It makes a person want o shake that drunk driver so bad it makes them pass out. They have dramaticaly changed an entire families life and they don't have any scratches and some times no regrets.

The drunk and his 2 equally or more drunk passengers were all fine, also learned that the driver had a suspended or revoked license and was on his third or more conviction for driving without a license. And we're not talking some young dumb kid either, but a 46 year old.

I don't honestly know if it'd make me feel any less angry if it was just some stupid 21 year old kid, sad to say but it probably would, I might even have some room for pity, but for this SOB I have as little pity as he has regard for human life. Alcoholism is a disease, I get that but it's not an excuse to not call a cab, ride a bus, ride a bike, walk or just go ahead and spend the night sleeping in your mess in an alleyway.

180 days, plus up to 5 years in jail (which really means out in 1) and he's free to mow down some more people, after clearly not learning anything the first time he was in jail for 10 days nor the second time he was in jail for 90 days, at least. It makes me wonder how two idiots in a bar fight can end up spending more time in jail than a drunk driver. If it wasn't for that I'd be tempted to grab a baseball bat and a beer for when he gets out. Say what you will about negative reinforcement, some people just don't learn from time-outs.

my deepest, sincerest sympathies.

I hope the anger and grief you are all experiencing will be eventually replaced by sweet memories of your uncle. Saying a quiet prayer for your aunt to recover.

Starz, I'm so so sorry for yours and your DMs loss of
your Dear Uncle. Especially in such a tragic way.
I pray you all find some peace with this in the future.

Also sorry for your illness...Oh the stress...

starz,

i'm so sorry for the loss of your uncle in such a terrible and tragic way.

i hope your family is able to find some peace in the loving and wonderful memories of your uncle instead of the way he passed.

blessing to you and your family.