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Old 07-10-2018, 06:52 PM #1
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Dangerous and toxic, to be a smoker regardless of your Mobility. Though I think before trying to change the smoking first, see what can be done for the pain. Without addressing her current quality of life I sincerely doubt she’ll be receptive to quitting and it’s likely to cause a shut down in communication completely. For years while I was in massive amounts of pain the doctors would point out that my smoking was going to kill me and I would respond every time with “Really? How many more do I need to smoke a day to speed things up then?” It was one part my being a smart *** and one part truly wishful thinking hat maybe if I could smoke a carton a day things would really speed up.

Trust me, no smoker thinks it’s actually healthy for them, we all know it’s a terrible vice, and when our family, friends and even perfect strangers lecture us about it all that really goes through our minds is how much longer are you gonna harp because we really WANT a cigarette right now. Many a times I’ve been driven to smoke almost 2 packs in a day because of folks telling how I need to quit (I normally smoke half a pack if that a day). Not advocating smoking, and not proud to be a smoker, but facing a perceived lifetime of agony in which nothing can be done for you is not the time that most smoker will even consider putting down their bic’s for good.

I understand. Unfortunately, I am a smoker too but a "closet smoker". I NEVER smoke in front of anyone but my fiance. I feel guilty to have started. I started during Hurricane Sandy. Just had finally kicked the husband out, no power for two weeks, still had to go to work and getting death threats. I know there is no excuse but that is my explanation. My youngest is the only one who doesn't know and I want to keep it that way until I quit.

My sister would never be receptive to quiting. We have tried. She smokes too much and drinks canadian club and seltzer everynight. She may say she has two, but what size?

Anyway. She is seeing her doctor tomorrow and I am going to email some of all of your input to hopefully put a match under ther butt. Love her dearly but she is, sorry to say, a pain in the butt to talk to!!
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Lol yeah sisters can certainly be that way, my sister and I can be polite in society but both of us are happiest keeping half the country between us and a convenient lack of memory for phone numbers . Another approach you might try with her is the tough love way... put her in charge of her own health. She says the doctors won’t operate (which yeah they probably won’t) so basically demand from her what’s next? PT? Cortisone shots? Implant pump or tens? Medication? Make her look it up, make her own choices and tell her your kids aren’t going to go over there and pick her up off the floor if she’s just going to wallow in her self pity. If she’s anything like my sister I’m sure it could be one heck of a row (she did not like the tough love approach to her husband cheating on her)

Basically need to get her to realize there are options, but you’re not gonna find them just bemoaning that one avenue that was closed. And doctors do care about their patients, but with all the specialists out there, they rarely have access to all the treatment options even more so if the patient doesn’t pretty much demand from their doctors the “so what now? And where do I go from here.”
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Thanks Starz,

My mother took her to her neurologist today. I personally think he's an idiot. He was my doctor for my TOS and I don't think I received the best care.

I provided her with information I received here and my mother provided her with some information she received. The doctor was completely non-receptive. He gave her a prescription for pain med for 3 months and then, I guess, they are done. So time is an issue. He used to drive me crazy beacuse when you were in his office for a consultation he had to type everything into his computer! How do you pay attention? He wants her to go to a pain management doctor. I have been to two. One did not give me enough to get out of bed in the morning. The other distributed like candy.

She told my mother she couldn't talk about it today. She cried in the office and cried going home. My sister is sixty and my mom is 82. I have to find someone for her to go to soon or she will end up in ER in major pain and withdrawl. I know we have a few months but it's hard to get appointments.
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