Hey Wiz

Come on out here with Greta and I. We're going to go and you can join us. Not sure of the date yet, but my DH has said no and that just makes me more determined to go!

As for Greta's question...

I want to go to Law School. And what's keeping me from doing it? My H has forbidden me from going. Those of you who have been on these message boards with me for awhile (and who have met me in person) know that I am known for my tenacity and when I want to do something, I usually find a way.

I am looking for that way right now. I have a plan, and believe me, he's not going to like it. I am tired of being unhappy and it's time I got "me" back. It's not the MS that is in my way, but I know that having MS is going to make it difficult. I was in the second semester of my junior year finishing my bachelor's degree when I was diagnosed so I am not naive about what it's going to take. Plus I am no spring chicken.

I am going to need a good support system.

Cindy,

It's not so much that I need his permission, because he knows the new Wiz well enough to know I'm going to do exactly what I want to do....

So, it wasn't fair of me to just put it on him not wanting me to do it, but, I'm frail and unsteady and I hurt myself easily, and I'd be really ticked at myself if I broke something or hurt my touchy back.

You see, in my head, I'm still a daredevil tomboy, willing to try anything once, but the reality is, I'm prone to dizziness, breaking parts of me and stuff. I'm a klutz living in a once athletic body. I wouldn't even go parasailing with DH a few years back when I had the chance. So, this isn't just him, though I know he'd worry and try to talk me out of it, it's mostly me and my very real limitations that aren't apparent when looking at me. The cute salesman skydives every weekend and takes people out and he sees the exterior that still has a smidgeon of athlete left.

I think I will try my hand at writing though, I have good ideas sometimes, and I can get very emotionally charged about a topic and put a lot into it. It might be industry writing at first about telecommunications issues and then who knows? I have so many ideas.

Well, I love the thought of being out there with you two, thanks for the invite! That would be a great experience! But as I answered to Cindy, it just isn't in me anymore to do things such as skydiving.

In two weeks, I'm going for a family get-together with my sister, nieces and their families. They're going to drive me in my car, and we'll spend one night in a fancy hotel with a water park and have lots of fun with all the kiddies. That sounds pretty easy to do and relaxing right? I know I'll enjoy it, but even that sort of thing wears me out! DH is concerned cause he knows how I drag for days after the simplest exertions such as this.

I'm hoping the Tysabri will give me some of my energy back. Or, maybe I'll win the lottery and I won't have to work anymore so I'll have extra energy for having more fun. (I suppose it would help if I'd start buying a ticket.)

I want to see pics of you and Greta on your jump if possible!!

And, about you becoming a lawyer, I can't think of anyone who'd be more qualified!!! I hope DH will support you in your efforts! Tell him to think of the big bucks you'd make! You could support him in the style he's accustomed to. And you'd be famous too! He'd be on the arm of a high-powered attorney!

LOL, more like under the Prada of...

Support???? You got it, girlie....
As my DH always says, This Ain't no dress rehearsal. Go for your dreams, Cheryl! But, I'm still not going skydiving!!

You've got that right! Do they make flats?!!!

Wiz, you do what you have to do. We all have to achieve the goals that are attainable for each of us.

I am learning not to set the bar too high nor to lose sight of the bar. He is not supportive at all of anything I want to do. That's the problem. It has been for a very long time.

Lately the things that come out of his mouth when I take on a new job are absolutely incredulous. He says things like "is it the MS that makes you do stupid stuff like this?" I just look at him dumbstruck. I have no answer because there is no logical answer for an ignorant question like that.

For Christmas, I received a gift certificate from Amazon.com. I used it to purchase the LSAT books. Everytime he walks into my office and sees the books sitting on my desk, he just looks the other way. He will not acknowledge them. His family motto is if we ignore it, it will go away (or it does not exist). Therefore, we do not talk about it. He has spoken and therefore I must obey. In other words, I have been told I cannot go to law school. In his mind I have wasted money on those books. Ha!

DM, you don't have to go skydiving. No one will force you. And yes, it was Stan! Thanks for the reminder!

I saw you post about your dog. I am sorry...it's rum and diet time...shall we????

20 years ago, I went for a nice alternative for those who aren't quite ready to JUMP, but like the scene. Sky divers are a fun breed, indeed!
When I went to a dropzone with a pal to watch her first sky-dive, I didn't go for it myself. Never got the urge,not even since my DX seven years later. But what I did do that day (for a nominal fee, and wearing a compulsory safely chute)was go up with them in the passenger seat,next to the pilot,staying in the plane the whole time. I got to see the drops, experts at 10K feet, down to static line newbies at 3K. Very cool.
That said, there aren't many things of that type I'd like to do but can't. My limitations are a bit more everyday in nature.. I used to love to ski..but my balance is not great these days so have given it up. Plus I was a good fast dancer.. loved that.. now I take it a bit easier..One thing I really can't do as easily is go down a flight of stairs fast..I used to be so fleet of foot.. Oh well-- I can't complain really-- as I've said on other threads.. I have a light case.. I'm lucky.

Ayup. These are highly styly:

Thank you!

I DIDN'T BUY THEM FOR YOU!

I wouldn't buy those ugly things for anyone! (maybe for a certain someone's wedding wear...) I digress, $417 for ugly tennis shoes you couldn't even wear for tennis!?!

You think I'm extravagant!?!