kick I can understand, i have a nasty independent streak in me been on my own for so long, and debs intentions are good, only thing I can say is he loves you and is just trying to help ease your troubles, he is trying, at least he isn't like some spouses who split at the drop of a hat from illness and such, maybe let him read this post? talk to him communicate your inner feelings so he will know,

just explain that you need to feel independent and thank him for his help and effort, but until said time you want to be able to do it on your own still

ok I shut up now