I have 2 children. Both of them born after my diagnosis. They are now 17 & 19.

Your quality of life won't necessarily go down hill- not sure where you got that idea from

I did birthday parties, we have gone to Disneyland twice, I went to all of their school functions (still do), I ran a taxi service for my kids and their friends, took them to the movies more times than I can count, I was a soccor mom, indoor jungle gyms and so much more.

I have never had any regrets.

Having more than one child is going to be difficult even if your in perfect health. No one ever said raising a familiy would be easy.

Only you can make this decision. Before I was DXed, raised twins, 10 at my DX,16 when I went into chair. They're old enough to help me a little, When they were little, even then I was thankful that they napped at same time (age difference means one will, other won't or will fight it). I know as a PP, will never remit, am glad it was done 17 years ago when I could do it like I did (did not work either, we ""choose" to go deeply into debt). Even having no MS symptoms then, after a night of twin feedings and diaper changes, I was so tired I'd cry. Motherhood is tough, but I would do it again like that, now, no.

I have raised my kids mostly on my own (divorced when they were young), and have two aged 13 and almost 17. I had MS before I had my first, and I worked until my eldest was 13. I also didn't have much support (no Grandparents, and sisters; too self-absorbed).

It is/was very, very hard. I had a good career when I was working, so I "bought" a lot of their opportunities in life; like travel, competitive sports, speciality schools, etc. If I didn't have the financial advantage, they would have missed out on a lot, and I would have felt terrible about that.

I haven't done much with them in the last 5 or 6 yrs, and I really wish that wasn't the way things panned out for them. I am at home now though, so at least we are close from that perspective.

Of course I would make the same decision because I can't imagine not having my second one (now that I have her). But if I hadn't been set up financially, and if I didn't have a lot of support from my ex, I would not have survived and/or they would not have prospered.

Cherie