Its a holiday weekend. We have come back to the old town, to be around the sick FIL, and are meeting up with loads of old friends, and family. its great to see everyone, but...

I am seeing that since being dxd, I am in slow motion next to everyone else. I have spent my whole life being a doer, and a very capable busy person. I used to put so many of my friends to shame with how many errands, tasks, and jobs I could get done. If you want something done, give it to a busy person to do. That was me! The kids were raised, the house was clean, school was all As ontop of 2 jobs, and so on. zoooom!

The weekend is starting to show me that I have dramatically slowed down. I see my friends zip, zooming around, and managing 6 things at once, and me? Im sitting on the side lines scratching my head.

When did I down shift? When did I get this comfortable being in the slow lane? There is NO way I could manage 10% of what I used to do. I live a great life, and have many blessings, but this weekend is gonna be a mind blower for me. Even my lazy friends are whipping circles around me.

Very interesting to see how far things have gone. I guess I am a watcher now, and not a doer. go figure.

Me, too Dej. I honestly don't mind the slower pace, though. I'm not near as anxious as I used to be. When I worked....and I did 12-14 hour days....I was constantly thinking about the next thing I needed to do. I was always one step ahead of myself and never really enjoying the present.

I feel like I did my time of being the "hyper one". Let somebody else have a shot at it!! Funny thing is.....now hyper people annoy me!!

I do hate to miss out on the outdoor activities I used to love but the heat just zaps the energy right out of me. It's one of my most obvious sx when warm weather gets here. Everything has to be done super early in the morning or very late at night. I feel like a vampire!

I hear Ya Dej and yet, I so agree with Kell's prospective on things. I love the slow lane, now.

I was the same way,Dej, so I can certainly relate!

I too find that those buzzy, busy folks annoy the crap out of me. They make coffee nervous.


I am enjoying the slow lane. I am not anxious, rushed, stressed, or in a panic about what to serve for dinner. I am no longer 5 steps ahead of myself. I am enjoying the now. the here. the this moment of it all. Im glad I got my ambitious level over with early in my life, cause if I had to go backwards, I would not make it. Im exhausted just watching my SIL. Good gravy!

HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS in case you need them, sometimes it hits hard when we realize what things we had to slow down on, heck no dx here but feel although busy busy with five kids and working full time... there are things I have slowed down with... or had to limit..due to sxs.. hugsss,sarah

I so relate to this, Dej! I was the sanguine tornado-on-speed and could outlast all children. But, ya' know, I've discovered a lot of things that I can do better and more efficiently because I've steadied my pace!

I think I almost pity the spastic/hyper people now.

I used to be the same way. I'd get up at the crack of dawn and hit the ground running. I could do more work in and hour than most people did in an afternoon. Since I was so good at getting things accomplished people would always ask me for help.

The other day I was trying to identify exactly when things changed. I couldn't name the time so I guess it was a gradual thing. I get frustrated with myself as well as other people. I expect them to work at the same rate I used to.

One of the good things is that I found I used to do things I didn't want to do because people expected me to do them. They don't have that expectation of me anymore so they don't ask. If they do, they do not feel bad if I say no. It leaves me more time for me.

Yesterday I spend about an hour planting seeds in my hanging baskets and planters in the yard. I was by myself taking my time and thoroughly enjoyed it. Slowing down has its benefits.

went to the grocery store today. paid the cashier, and she started ringing up the woman behind me BEFORE she and the bagger had a chance to bag my order. Of course, now the woman behind me feels entitled to nudge me. She needed the Credit card machine to pay for her snapple, and salad bar items. I was in front of it, because DH, and bagger were blocking with a cart, and bagging as quickly as possible. Rude lady leans in to say "excuse me! you are blocking the credit card machine, can you move?!" I took a step BACKWARDS. turned to the cashier, and said "why did you start another order before you finished this one?" Then I turned to the rude lady and said "i will move when its YOUR Turn. For now its MY turn. When my turn is over, i will move forward, and you can have your chance. Till then, PLEASE GET OFF MY ***! I cannot move forward until the order has been bagged. THANK YOU! The cashier FINALLY stepped forward to help bag the rest of the order and apologized to us both.

Why is everyone in such a hurry? you CANNOT take your turn, till mine is over. there was no one in line behind rude lady, and she was pushing like there was a fire drill to get out.

Didn't you tell her that you were in the Permanent SLOW LANE?