Hello all. Just found out that my sis is planning on moving to upstate NY in a month. Apparently EVERYONE knew about it but me and Mike. This means that my beautiful little niece will be 1800 miles away. I feel like screaming! She is like our little princess. They even lived with us for her first 4 years - so I was there to see her walk, talk, teethe, etc. I just don''t know which end is up. I love her so much. My heart is truly breaking. I don't know how I'll make it without her. She is such a little ball of fire and thought of not being able to see her makes me sob...........

I used to watch Lilli every day, but since my dx, my sis has been very bitter and won't bring her over - if I want to see her, I am given the option of picking her up or not seeing her @ all......I just don't understand.......

They plan on living with her MIL (in the basement) and going to school full time while working - so where does that leave Lilli? They are pulling her from everyone and everything she has even known.....how can they be so selfish?

When I found out yesterday I was just angry - now I'm numb. I can't even think straight. I'm going to miss my baby soooooo much.

Erin

Oh Erin,
I'm sorry and I can definitely sympathize! My daughter moved to Texas when my grandbaby (who turned 10 today, by the way), was 18 mos. old. I thought I would die. They had lived with us her whole life, and I remember when I said goodbye to her with tears streaming down my face, she gave me the most puzzled look! It still almost makes me cry remember the feelings.

One thing I can tell you, is that your little Lilli won't forget you - call her often - and you'll see, their voices are even sweeter on the phone from a long distance. And remember, nothing is permanent! Do you think your sis would let Lilli come for visits with you in the summer months?

Big hugs to you Erin! My heart breaks for you, so your's has company!

erin-i don't know what to say but know i'm praying for you! yes- definitly send things,call write, hopefully they will cooperate. even keep a little book or journal and share it with her at a later time. i'm so sad for you and mike.but on a brighter note how about voluteering or big sister time of thing to fill the void. love xmas 25

Oh Erin, I am so sorry sweetie. I wish there was something I could say or do to make you feel better. I know you will miss her terribly. I don't think your sister would object to you calling her often. You can send her letters and lots of pictures, she would love that. Maybe you and Mike can visit them in NY and maybe she can visit you too. My heart goes out to you.

Big Hugs,
Pat

Erin, so sorry to hear someone you are so close to is moving so far away. Wish there was something I could say to help you feel better. You will be in my thoughts.

ckitty

Hi dear, its sad to see what they're doing to you! Wish there were things that we could all do to make you feel better, but I think all you wish is to see her with you. Continue to write Lilli letters, send her cards, photos of you and Mike, and call her whenever you can! Am sure she'll remember you when she grows up!!

Hi Erin,
I'm very sorry for what is happening to you, you certainly have the right to be sad…but I would like to tell more: there will be other moments which will be as rewarding as the past ones, and may be even more.
When we married (in Belgium, 46 years ago…), we flew to Central Africa for my work, we stayed there 4 years with a four month holiday in between, our first two sons were born over there, we corresponded with the family, we shot color movies which we sent to the parents and after one year stay in Belgium, we were sent for two years in Pittsburgh, Pa…and we continued the system!
Now, one of our sons is settled in Montreal (Canada)…and it is our turn…but nowdays, one could call and webcam do work wonderfully…
One last thing, 2 weeks ago, we had a party for my 70th birthday (a surprise for me!)with all the family and some friends, most of them coming from about 500 miles away and gess what, my son from Montreal was there, just for the week-end!
Those are also unforgetable moments…
Maurice.

It must be awful being part of lilli's life like that and then they up sticks and move.

She wont forget you and hopefully she can come and stay with you during the holidays. When your sister sees the cost of childcare, she will realise you will be doing her a favour!

How about webcams so that you can see her when you talk to her? Maybe buy one as a leaving present for lilli?

I dont know what else to say, but my heart goes out to you.

Love rach xx

Erin, I am sorry you are going through this but it at least explains the distance your sister started putting between you {since she knew she was going to move} Maybe she thinks if you are mad at her then it makes her moving away easier on her and you? As for your niece, I am sure your sister in time will allow her to visit you for summer break. But having lived in upstate NY myself, don't be surprised if she doesn't move back home soon LOL. Just keep communication open with her and in time things will work out. Big hugs

Awe Erin, I'm so sorry! What part of upstate NY is she going to moving too? I know you're hurting, and I wish I could make it all better for you. Some day, your sister is going to grow up, and look back, and really realize what she has done. My prayers are that she realizes it much sooner than later, and that she changes her behavior. I'm praying hard for you.
Love you
Love Lizzie