[lady girl]

Hello,

My Name is Janet I live in Northern Ohio, married 31 years. No children but 34 nieces and nephews. That will keep anyone busy. My husband was in an auto accident. He was rear-ended while in park by another vehicle going 55-60 mph.

3 months later I am learning to live a different life. Husbands has TBI, Post Concussion Syndrom, whiplash and other back injuries. He is not getting better the headachs, attitude, confussion, social skills and every day task are a challenge. He was a hard working man and now he can't do much of anything. He is very angry, the anger is put on me with words by him. There have been many tears from both of us, as we love each other and will forever.

I really feel he needs physological help, would this be uncommon? His life has changed, no work, no income and his family does not belive he is sick because he looks fine. Very sad......

How do I handle the changes? I am going crazy. Someone help.

[Darlene]

Janet,

Hello and welcome to NeuroTalk. Happy to see you have come to be with us.

There are great number and caring fellow members here, you will see we are supportive and relaxing place. Just let us know if we can be of any help. Our shoulders are here for support in many ways.

Sorry to hear about your husband wreak. Check into the following links for some assistance, there should be some members which will help.

Traumatic Brain Injury and Post Concussion Syndrome:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum92.html

General Health Conditions & Rare Disorders:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum2.html

Again welcome, looking forward to seeing you around. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Darlene

[Lightrail11]

Hi Janet and welcome.

3 months is really not that long for recovery from a TBI, especially from a severe accident with other physical trauma besides the TBI. I was in hospital for 2 months (TBI, multiple fractures and other trauma), and it was six months before I was physically and cognatively well enouth to begin driving again and was able to return to work.

Yes, he probably does need psychological therapy, which is not at all uncommon for a TBI victim. One of the scariest periods in my recovery was when my brain recovered enough to know something was wrong (confusion, memory problems, emotional issues like anger), but not well enough to feel normal. Outpatient occupational and cognative therapy would probably be useful. Since brain injury is not visable to those not closest to the victim it is sometimes difficult for other family members to understand what is going on.

He should probably be evaluated by a clinical neuropsychologist, these are psychologists who specialize in the applied science of brain-behavior relationships, and most of them are experienced with TBI and PCS. They could plan specific treatment to address any cognative deficits and emotional challenges he has.

I understand your pain and frustration, but he is still relatively early in the recovery process and will need more time to heal.

Best to both of you in your recovery journey.

[Rrae]

Welcome!

How great of you to be here on behalf of your husband.
I'm sure this is frightening for you both to be dealing with.
I agree that psychological help would benefit him greatly. Hopefully he will be willing and open to this. Maybe this is something that you would be able to attend with him. It might make him feel more comfortable with it.

Another forum here might be of help to you is the 'Caregiver's' forum....here's the link to get you there:

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/fo...aysprune=&f=56

Once he realizes that he is not alone in this, maybe he'll open himself up a bit and not let anger take center stage. Although I can certainly understand why he is feeling this frustrated and angry. This is aLOT to have to contend with.

My heart goes out to the both of you and I pray that things will work out for the two of you so that you can begin to get back to the life that you know.

Caring,
Rae