hi i really need a friend right now i am in a bad time in my life and have got to find somebody to talk to b4 i go crazy. I am sad all the time and it seems that nothing makes it better i have 3 beautiful boys that should make me feel like life is worth living but i dont feel that way sometimes i feel as though they would be better off without me because i am so sad all the time my children have seen me cry and be upset more than they have seen me laugh and be happy i dont even remember the last time i was truley happy. I want to get that back people ask me what will make me happy but i dont know. i need to talk to somebody who understands how i feel and understands how it feels to be sad and crying all the time i am crying as i type this...Please help me.

Hi sad,

and welcome. You will find many great and caring members here. We are great listeners.

I just missed you in the chat room.

First off, a wise person once told me to try not to put so much pressure on yourself about being sad all the time. You do not need the guilt on top of being sad or pressure to be something you are not right now for the sake of others.

So give yourself permission to be sad for as long as your want. There is no shame in it sweetie. Sometimes its what we need.

And sometimes everything can become so overwhelming so try to break things down into little pieces to try to cope. I know I have too.

Now lets take things one at a time. Have you seen a doctor and talked to them about this? Has a doc done any blood test lately to check for things that can throw your mood off like autoimmune problems or hormones?

I am including a link to one of our forums for you if you need to talk further.

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum37.html

But lets concentrate on you to see how we can make this better. We have lots of people that will want to help you. You are safe here.

Hi Sad! Welcome to NeuroTalk.

Your post really got to me. Have you checked out the different forums here. I know that the Depression along w/some other sites might have someone who is going thru a bad or sad time right now, too.
It gets overwhelming for me sometimes, too. But, I do see a Dr for that.

Have you talked w/a Dr about this? I really think that would be a good step. Smile, you are among friends..

Hi,

I'm glad you found this site. You will find plenty of people to talk to here. I don't know if I can relate to how you are feeling but I am here with an open ear to listen. Sometimes just talking helps.

Is there someone you can call, a doctor or a priest or a councelor that can offer some support or guidance?

Please know that there are people here that will listen and there is plenty of info on this site to hopefully help you.

HUGS

Tracy

Hello,

Sorry you are sad. I am also. I would love to talk to you if you want. Maybe we can make each other feel better. Many nice people here. Wish we could both feel better. Please talk with me.

Thanks,

Dan

Hi Sad and Welcome to NT

1st off, don't ever say your 3 children would be better off with out you. That is furthest from the truth.

I have 3 wonderful sons myself. They have seen me during depressed times,crying, laughing whatever but they love me! and I know not only do your kids need you but I'm sure they love you very much.

I am sorry you are feeling so down! There are many wonderful people here who are really good listeners. If you want to pm me please feel free!

Take care of yourself. I hope you feel better soon

(((Sad)))

You are not alone in this! We are here

I have to say everything that the above posters is true...and I don't have much to add, other than my ear, shoulder, understanding and support!

There are great people here....please keep visiting and posting!

and Welcome to our little corner of the world!!!

So glad you found us!!

I see that Shelley has given you a great link.

Please know that you are not alone! We are here with you. Please feel free to talk, vent, scream, yell, cry... we understand.

If you have any questions please ask. Someone will always be around shortly to help you in any way we can.


Please feel free to roam around and join in anywhere. You will find a great group of caring, compassionate, friendly, helpful people here!!

Hope to see you around the boards!!!
Abbie

Task Force Moose Protocol:

Retreat: Pull away and push back from what is wearing you down. Identify the problems. Focus on them one at a time. Find a positive solution to it, or just let it go.

Regroup: Come up with a plan to help yourself. First of all, forgive yourself. Then realize that there are programs out there to help you.

Reload: My favorite part! Put that plan into action.

None of these steps are to be rushed. You didn't get this way overnight. The solution is going to take time. Regardless of everything else, know this:

You are not alone.
You are one of us.
And we are here to help.

It sounds like you are dealing with depression. As someone else said we have a great depression site here. There are also other sites that will help you such as the Survivors of Suicide. I don't know how your health is but you might be dealing with some medical issues such as Fibromyalgia or Cronic Fatigue Syndrome. Depression does not always hang by itself.

I deal with depression, have since the day I was born I guess. I know exactly what you are going through.

I am glad you have those 3 beautiful kids and they are lucky to have you so don't ever forget that.

I hope you have thought about seeing your family Dr. to see if he might get you on some depression meds. That would help you I think, also counceling if you feel you need it or if your Dr. does.

You will find a lot of great support here as I have said. Don't ever give up on yourself. You can get to that point again where you are happy and can enjoy those little ones.

Let us know if you need anything. PM me if you need to. I also have been known to talk to people on the phone. Of course they have helped me as much as I them but I enjoy the friends I have made here and you will too.

I hope you start having some better days soon and do stick around here with us.

Ada