i have been seperated from my wife for 2 months and just now had the conversation that it is over and she dose not want to work things out. it has always been up untill now that she wanted to and i dont know what changed between yesterday and now but.............. im going crazy.........i have four children with her and would do any thing to to solve and learn and what ever it takes what ever but she is the one who was cheating and the one who has decided she dose not want to grow together. im 28 with 4 children and they are my life. i dont know what else to say but im getting hammered and am trying to reach out. i can only hit the ground so many times befor i cant get up. i have spent 7 years giving and giving and not receving, i'm tired, i just dont know what to do or say any more.

Hello Mitch, and welcome to NeuroTalk.

It sure sounds like you have a lot to deal with at the moment, so if there's anything we can help you with, please let us know.

Welcome again, you're sure to find support here.

Mitch

Sorry that you are going through so much right now. I can only imagine how overwhelming it must be. But you have come to a very warm and understanding place. We are very good listeners.

Please remember to to take care of you. Your kids need you and love you.

If you need to chat live you can go into the chat rooms. If no one is there you can alway post a thread about chatting in the social forum and someone will likley come in to the chat room to talk, just be patient it may take a little while.

You and your family are in my prayers.

I am so sorry you have to go through this. You do have one thing going for you right away, though. . . it sounds like you have and are putting your children first. It is not easy to get your feet back under yourself, and your kids will be way ahead if they see you focused and problem solving. I sense that you will be there for them no matter what, and that they will have a dad who rises above and sets the good example they need to help them grow up and enter adulthood without so many scars.

Lifting you in prayer also . . .

Sorry that you're going through so much right now, Mitch. It can seem overwhelming at times, I know. Everyone who's responded has given you excellent advice so I will just agree with what they've told you. I hope things will get better for you and your children.

Hi, Mitch! Welcome to NeuroTalk!

Sorry to learn of your trials, it has to be devastating for you. You might find additional support at our parent site, PsychCentral here:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/index.php?Cat=&C=2

Hi Mitch and welcome to NT. You have received great advice. Sorry your going through so much. I noticed on your profile you said if you do not get help in the next five...

Please know this is a great place for support and there are many areas to get just that. I hope you come back on to read all the replies. No matter what goes on in your life just do one thing. Look at those babies and know they need their daddy to help them get through this too. That is the best reason to keep going. Hugs.

Mitch,

It hurt me to read your post. I went through very similiar circumstances with my ex 4 years ago. I know how bad it hurts when you feel like you keep giving and it's not appreciated. (Or even worse: spit on.)

And I have 2 sons from my ex, too. I had new dog tags made with thier names on them. Because they are who I fight for now.

It's gonna take awhile to get over the hurt. I know it did for me. It takes awhile for it to just "sink in" that it's over. You are doing the right thing with coming to this site. Lots of great people here. And my advice is to keep looking for help with this. Grab the phonebook or check the web for support groups and such.

Trust me partner, you don't feel it now, but eventually you'll be glad she's gone.

And then you, me, and all our kids will go to Hooters together!

Keep posting, and remember;

You are not alone.
You are one of us.
And we are here to help.