Hi there:

I have some questions for you. "do you have a deviated septum??" That can cause snoring. Obesity can cause snoring. You say you were able to share a bed BEFORE the accident. What exactly happened in the accident?

Well, until you find out if you indeed do have a deviated septum (they can fix this via surgery by the way), there are other over the counter measures that you can at least try. I myself use the Breathe Right Strips. They fit over the nose, they open the nasal passage ways, so you don't breathe through your mouth. You can try these.

There is also a throat spray (also non invasive, over the counter), that you spray in your throat and it somehow moistens the back of your throat so you don't snore.

And because you now know that you have sleep apnea, well sometimes they can perform a procedure. Here's some info on that:

Click on this link.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uvulopalatopharyngoplasty

So ALL IS NOT HOPELESS. This is 2008. NOT 1908!!! Thank goodness!!

A solution awaits. You just have to decide which one works. Here's hoping that you find your answer and can once again sleep in the same bed with your wife.

All the best.