harley, do you know what kind of assisted living they are talking about?

here there are graduated assisted living, depending on the amount of of care you need or want. or don't want. many of these are really adult living communities. many states have banned them because it was descriminating against those with children. so they add the amenities of care and don't have to allow children.

there are some that are like duplexes or quad houses. high rise apartment/townhouses with garages.

they have full everything...kitchens, your own washer and dryer, either balconies or small porches with yards.

but they also offer a dining room if you don't want to cook. have some type of medcial staff on duty. the amount of care depends on the what is needed. you can keep you indepenance.

i had a very close friend move in to one. after 5 years she decided she didn't want to drive anymore and took the van with other residents to run her errands. she enjoyed not cooking all the time too.

she is older than you. i know the situation is different.

but if they are looking as more of a nursing type of facilty, there are other alternatives.

you have rights harley. we are here to help. i wish i could do more.

I was not taking this subject lightly at all. I hope that anyone reading my reply above can see that.

As stated above, yes it is important to discuss this topic as a family before the word "forced" would come into the conversation.

I take my leave of NeuroTalk.

i did carolyn.

this is a very tough and sensitive subject. for all.

Artist: Jim Morrison
Song: The End

This is the end, beautiful friend
This is the end, my only friend
The end of our elaborate plans
The end of ev'rything that stands
The end

No safety or surprise
The end
I'll never look into your eyes again

Can you picture what will be
So limitless and free
Desperately in need of
some strangers hand
In a desperate land

Lost in a Roman wilderness of pain
And all the children are insane
All the children are insane
Waiting for the summer rain
There's danger on the edge of town
Ride the king's highway
Weird scenes inside the goldmine
Ride the highway West baby

Ride the snake
Ride the snake
To the lake
To the lake

The ancient lake baby
The snake is long
Seven miles
Ride the snake

He's old
And his skin is cold
The west is the best
The west is the best
Get here and we'll do the rest

The blue bus is calling us
The blue bus is calling us
Driver, where you taking us?

The killer awoke before dawn
He put his boots on
He took a face from the ancient gallery
And he walked on down the hall

He went into the room where his sister lived
And then he paid a visit to his brother
And then he walked on down the hall
And he came to a door
And he looked inside
Father?
Yes son
I want to kill you
Mother, I want to.............

Come on, baby, take a chance with us
Come on, baby, take a chance with us
Come on, baby, take a chance with us
And meet me at the back of the blue bus

This is the end, beautiful friend
This is the end, my only friend
The end

It hurts to set you free
But you'll never follow me

The end of laughter and soft lies
The end of nights we tried to die

This is the end

Some Assited living places will aloow you to stay from a weekend to
a month,this is something you may want to try. But either way I
hope it can be your way,good luck and good care to all. Assited
living can be expensive a lot of states are working hope for home
heath care..Hugs Sue

a bit more positive-

"And in the end

The love you take

Is equal to the love you make."

Hang in there harley

Which path to be chosen when the choice lay between the struggle of already judgemental opinions stemming from exhausted minds, or the narrower path of undiscovered awakenings which has not been experienced enough of this hard life to place an honest value on it?

each window offers a different view. one familiar, yet is the the residue so built up on the the pane that it merely needs the cleansings from a wet rag full of tears and buffering of a dry rag full of wisdom to show the truth of the reality on the other side? and am i ready for the acceptance of this reality?

the other view shows a side of myself that i have hidden from my own view, yet need to awaken and recapture so i can redirect the time left of my days. the value of precious moments are so much more evident in this view that it has become necessary to take the needed effort upon myself to discipline my independent desires and accept the uninevatable.

but, not yet.

i still am strong, i still am loud, and i still will fight. with each and every ounce of who i know i am.. i will fight.

it is not time.. not yet