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10-15-2008, 05:00 PM | #41 | ||
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Everyone was very supportive to Claude, but his niece (and how old is she, I wonder?) most likely is now suffering PTSD from being the likely victim of an agonist's siezing control of Claude's ability to inhibit his impulses, wrecking the trust in what I'm hoping was until then a safe and good relationship.. What a tragedy, and a warning to all of us again, of the risks to everyone from these drugs, and of the toll they can take on families with these horrendous disinhibiting side effects. As a therapist, I've spent years helping clients who were sexually taken advantage of by relatives under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or mental illness.
I've also helped abuser deal with the scars left on them and their families after their betrayals of those they loved. How outrageous that with all the crap that our families (and we) have to put up with from our PD, that our medications, intended to help, turn out for so many to be so toxic!!! I stay away from agonists myself, because they make me too sleepy, and because I have seen too many people fall asleep driving, or gamble their savings away, or lose sleep and fall the next day, out of fatigue, because they are so addicted to compulsive late-night computer time and don't get the sleep they need. Grrr. These drugs can be so bad for so many of us! Leonore Here's my post to Claude. .. Contact your niece's parent(s) and tell them what happened, and tell them that you would like to see a competent family therapist, with her and with them, who specializes in sexual abuse issues, in order to make amends and restore yur relationship with this niece. How old is she, first of all? First she will need to hear that was happened was wrong and absolutely not her fault. She will need validation and comfort from her parents, and from a therapist, who will help you and her to carefully bring you both back to the days before this happened, and re-tie the bonds that seemed to have existed before. Your anguish tells us all alot about you-you must be a good person to feel so much remorse--and the medication must be the origin of this--but it still happened and is real for your niece.. Explain to adults in her life that Parkinson's med's can disinhibit some people, but first discuss ths event ASAP with your PD doctor, who must also speak to your niece's parent(s) about this. I suspect this was caused by an agonist. If you say to her that it "wasn't really you," then you will not be able to heal what has happened with your niece, as you will make her feel confused, invalidated in her hurt and anger, and not able to really hear your apology, or ever take it seriously. You have to acknowledge that it was "you," but a you who was under the influence of medication that is supposed to help your disease, but sometimes makes it hard to listen to the inner police officer inside of you that normally helps you put on the brakes and stop you from doing or saying the wrong thing. This will be really hard to do, Claude, but has to happen immediately, with your doctor as ally, to verify this, so your niece does not suffer any further from the betrayal she must be suffering of the trust she used to feel in you, around safety and boundaries. I strongly recommend immediate action for your niece's sake,and for the sake of ever salvaging what used to be good in your and her relationship. Good luck, Leonore Quote:
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10-15-2008, 07:05 PM | #42 | ||
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See this post
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10-15-2008, 11:05 PM | #43 | |||
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His niece is an adult as he posted previously.
I think he found the answers that he was searching for.
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10-16-2008, 06:35 AM | #44 | ||
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Claude,
If you direct your contacts to this URL, they can all see the posts, if that's what you meant. paula
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10-16-2008, 07:15 AM | #45 | ||
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10-16-2008, 07:31 AM | #46 | ||
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10-16-2008, 08:17 AM | #47 | ||
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claude, if you want to post privatly to only friends ( contacts ) on the forum, you will need to set up a private intitation only Social Group. i can help you set one up, if that is what you want. |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | sept08 (10-16-2008) |
10-16-2008, 10:37 AM | #48 | |||
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Claude has requested this thread to be closed.
If members wish to continue a discussion on the topic of these potential side effects of meds, you are welcome to start a new thread.
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"Thanks for this!" says: | sept08 (10-16-2008) |
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