There is an anger phase to any chronic disease state.

Anger that relief cannot be had quickly.
Anger that it isn't fair.
Anger that doctors can't help much.
Anger realizing that this may be for life.

All people have to go thru this with any serious painful, or debilitating condition.

Eventually people do come around. And sometimes there can be improvement. But that takes time.

If this is severe for you and your wife...there are counselors that deal with chronic pain, etc, who can help. Certainly, coming here and seeing the posts of others in the same boat may help too.

I think this is a wonderful outlet here, myself.