Just a thought or two - is it possible that you can do some of the monitoring of your father by phone instead of going over every day, and does the community have home visit services to check up on the disabled and/or very elderly?

Reason I ask is that the Cleveland suburb in which we live has a very active Department on Aging/Disability. For the past year, we've been having a monthly housekeeping visit for $5. I keep up with it otherwise, but it's nice to have a young person who can really scrub up a storm in areas that don't need to be done as often as the usual.

If your dad is able to fully understand what his docs say to him when he does have an appointment, does the community offer transportation for the disabled/elderly to/from doctors appointments, prescription pick-up, and even certain days for shopping?

Sheltiemom

I am so sorry. I don't know how you keep up with the day you stated. It sounds like you are the last on your priority list but right now need to be on top. I can relate to the comments made by family and why some of my family members I have little contact with. My grandfather tells me basically when ever we speak that my PN and RSD pain is my fault. In those words.
I wish I had answers other then to tell the family members who are saying this how you feel and what can help you. As for your dad I agree with the other poster. Also I thought through medicaid they offer help to older people at their homes. Sorry if I am wrong but you may want to look into that.
All your feelings are very valid. I think for me when mentally I see myself breaking I need to really focus on what I can do to make things better so I don't crumble. I tend to let things build up and then loose it. So could you reach out to a friend,are there other family members that could help you and your dad,etc? You are in my thoughts.

My father had a motorcycle accident a little over a year ago he his now pretty much wheel chair bound because of strength and balance issues caused by the stroke he had in ICU after the accident. He is on medicare and does receive some help through a home health agency with his bathing and some home physical therapy. I prepare his meals each day for him, he has to thicken all his liquids or he could aspirate into his lungs. He was in a nursing facility for 6 months after the accident, but perferes to live at home. I think alot of it is, he's lonely and doesn't like to be by himself. He lives about 15 minutes from were I live. I do not think that medicare will pay for transportation services. There is a service called visiting angels, but the their charge is $68 per each day they come out. His only income is his social security which is not much. If he could get on medicaid then he could get more services, but he does not qualify for home medcaid. They will only approve him for medcaid if he is in a nursing home. But don't worry someday our goverment will fix the system if were lucky and then people can get the help they need so they can still live at home. The stress of everything I have to deal with daily is taking a toll on my health and I know if i do not make some changes to relieve this stress then my health issues could get worse. Then what good would I be to anyone.

Well I think I will go drop a bill off at the post office. And then maybe go shopping and spend some money. My husband just loves when I spend money!!!!!! Well it makes me feel good to buy something new for myself, which I do almost every Saturday since it is my only free day I have for myself each week. Husband works on Saturdays, daughters at work. I need more Saturdays in a week. Thanks everyone for your understanding. It's nice to have a place I can come and talk to everyone when I'm having a bad day.