I am going to offer a very airy-fairy esoteric idea if you bear with me with an open mind ...

I once had to make a very important health decision, all the top doctors were all over the place with recommendations.

I was all stressed out, couldn't decide, was taking forever to decide, had to make a decision quick but didn't know what to do.

I was doing loads of research, knew all the facts but still stuck.

I sat down with a box of crayons. I drew pictures of me taking one route and the best/worse that could happen, then on another sheet I drew pictures of me taking the other path.

Instantly, I knew exactly the right decision for me. I felt absolutely solid about it. I took it. Still feel good about that path, even though both are legitimate paths, and have never looked back.

Not saying you would have the same result but if you continue feeling stuck perhaps find a totally new way of coming at the question.

Re: The offer from your dr to add an antidepressant, was that Cymbalta?
Cymbalta does have pain masking qualities.
It has diminished my neuropathy pain entirely for a time and now about 75% decrease in pain.
I wish you well, Jordo.