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Old 01-30-2012, 11:01 AM #1
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I appreciate all the replies I really wanted to get some advice from people besides my family and friends that would be bias so I wouldnt feel like they just said what I wanted to hear. I have been given an opportunity to live my life next to a wonderful man and I wont pass it up
It sounds like you are feeling more positive? You know how you think he is a wonderful man it sounds like he thinks you are a wonderful women. I was thinking of this post in relation to myself. I feel with conditions like this not only does it impact depression,anxiety,but also self esteem. I know it is hard to not focus on what this can or has taken away but if one can start to focus on the goals and things they have and can accomplish. There is a lot I can't do but I am trying to find things I can. Sometimes I guess it is about doing things in a different way but still have fufillment and joy. Ok sorry for this little novel. Stay strong and keep us updated
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It sounds like you are feeling more positive? You know how you think he is a wonderful man it sounds like he thinks you are a wonderful women. I was thinking of this post in relation to myself. I feel with conditions like this not only does it impact depression,anxiety,but also self esteem. I know it is hard to not focus on what this can or has taken away but if one can start to focus on the goals and things they have and can accomplish. There is a lot I can't do but I am trying to find things I can. Sometimes I guess it is about doing things in a different way but still have fufillment and joy. Ok sorry for this little novel. Stay strong and keep us updated
Yes I am , I had a really bad week but I'm so thankful for my family and my boyfriend they support me all the time .. Yes couldn't agree more not only do we need to learn how to differently but depression,anxiety hit us hard but we can still try to do things who is to say there is only one way although it seems nearly impossible at first. I know what you mean about self esteem for me it was so hard when I began to use braces for my dropped foot but I know that things could be worst if I didn't have my afos I probably would able to work or even walk outside. Dont be upset its only normal to miss the things we can no longer do but you will be able to find a new way to do them that you probably never thought you could do. Each day makes us a bit stronger, although some days are cloudier than others !!
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Just sending good wishes....
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What you're going through -- struggles with a basic physical ability like walking -- seems like something most people face when they're much older.

I'm sorry. It's not fair.

I've always hiked and walked. It's my most important psychological relief. Now I have numbness starting in my feet, and the neuro says the motor nerves are weakened as well. So it may be the neuropathy which finally ends my walking.

But I'm 57 years old! That makes it different. I've reached the point where I know that something will start taking my abilities away. You're shouldn't be there yet!

Again, I'm sorry.

Therapy, yes! Double yes.

I hope your therapist is a good fit for you -- if she's not, find one who is. You should walk out of a session feeling emotionally cleansed, newly open, with something like a calm center beginning to grow inside. That would be a sign of good therapy.

If you walk out of a session feeling bruised and confused, find someone whose personality fits you better. Don't hesitate or be shy about it -- therapists are professionals and all of them should know that personalities must fit for good work to be done.

My beloved girlfriend does an exercise when her health class reaches the topic of aging: she hands each student five slips of paper and has them write their five favorite activities on them. Then she goes around the room and takes away one slip from each student -- "That's what aging does to people," she says. Then she goes around and takes away another slip...

Now here's the punchline: I told that to a therapist recently. Without missing a beat he said, "She took away what they wrote, but she didn't take away the pen!"

Right! Even though we lose abilities, we can still write ourselves a strange and beautiful life.

Keep posting, and tell us how things are going.

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Thanks for your thoughts too you are very kind
Don though I agree with some of what you stated sometimes in therapy you do feel worse mentally before you get better. The reason is cause you are working and dealing with emotional and hard issues. I have had a lot of therapy pre this condition as well and I will agree that not every therapist is a match to the patient. I am complicated like many but I always do a pre interview on the phone and get the approach of therapist. There are different types focus too whether CBT,DBT,etc
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Yes thats why im getting a second opinion my first doctor left me with a lot of unanswered questions and now that I have done some research im no longer afraid to ask questions, my boyfriend says not to lose hope we do know what tomorrow will bring to us sorry to hear about the numbness I began feeling that in my toe but started taking methyl b12 an vitamin b complex so far no more numbness although np has taken a lot from me I am still me and I am still alive so I must move forward. Thanks again for the advice on therapy im definitely looking foward to it
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Your boyfriend is right. Symptoms change and come and go. You don't know about tomorrow. Could be fantastic. Especially if you find the right supplements and doses to help.
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Yes thats why im getting a second opinion my first doctor left me with a lot of unanswered questions and now that I have done some research im no longer afraid to ask questions, my boyfriend says not to lose hope we do know what tomorrow will bring to us sorry to hear about the numbness I began feeling that in my toe but started taking methyl b12 an vitamin b complex so far no more numbness although np has taken a lot from me I am still me and I am still alive so I must move forward. Thanks again for the advice on therapy im definitely looking foward to it
Your bf does sound so nice and positive. It helps me to be around people like that which can help you stay focused and hopeful. Keep us updated on the therapy and everything else. As they say in therapy take one day at a time and as my pain doctor says on the bad days do the best you can and on the good days do the most you can.
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