Nope.

I got a couple of very critical PM's from a very sick person who I care about a lot. To my chagrin, in trying to help I seemed to have added to that person's distress. It was regarding the LEF "Autoimmune Diseases" protocol and my urging people to never give up and keep searching and be willing to try things that might help.

I was intending to just stop posting here, but they got over it, and so did I. The Cathy cartoon was in the paper the next day. It helped me see things more clearly.

To be honest, I do the bathroom(s) sink(s), tub and toilet(s).
I do 75% of the cooking, she does the baking
(cakes, breads, cookies, etc), the dishes (most of the time)
I put them away.
I do the vacuuming.
She cleans up the dog poop and the kitty-litter box.
I dig up the garden,
she grows the flowers and veggies.
We seem to divide things pretty equally.

I'm kinda short on hugs, she doesn't cry.
Neither of us really yell.
I kinda talk loud, and am boisterous, and have been mistaken for shouting.
I think we live civilized lives, and have for over 26 years.
I dunno what this Venus/Mars thing is about, but then, I've never
been into astrology.

We just ......... DO.

David,
Please don't ever stop posting here! You have been an inspiration to me. It's important to unknown numbers of people too. Some people will be helped by the path you have walked to get to where you are with your neuropathy. Not all people will respond to it, sometimes the numbers can't be changed because of the genetics that are involved. But some will.

People who are ill, will sometimes say things they don't really mean. I know I am guilty of that, myself. When I hurt,.. am tired because I didn't sleep that night, ...when meds are changing,.. the words just come out. I know that when I feel better and think back over some of the words, I often wish I could take them back.

I certainly hope you stay. We all need you.

Billye

Nide44,

Venus and Mars have nothing to do with astrology. They're metaphors for innate gender differences. Last time I looked, we're not the same, inside and out. In general, women are more relationship and bonding oriented, men are more action and problem solving oriented. That translates into behavior: most mystery fans are women, most explorers are men, women like clothes, men like gadgets (from a boat to a new can opener). I believe that some of the misunderstandings are due to these gender differences. The result is that women sometimes feel that we don't understand and are not there for them, and men feel that women don't communicate even though they say they have, or that women are "too" emotional.

But, each of us is a combination and some don't fit the mold. Our lovely next door neighbor was a lady auto mechanic, our friend was Mr. Mom at home with the kids while his wife worked. My wife and I mix things like you and yours. She started college as a PE major and is still into weight lifting as a 60 yr. old (masculine?), and I started as a psych major and I've always loved to cook (feminine?).