Glenn's comment about his wife and checkbook is amazingly clear to me. It's not a control thing. More than likely it's because she can't balance one.

My math education was sadly neglected. And while I understand the whole concept of the check book and what it is for, I have yet to be able to balance one. My husband doesn't object to my writing checks, it's just that he is the one who balances the thing. I can't seem to do it unless I do it electronically. And yet for many, many years, I was in charge of keeping aircraft records (yes,... lots of numbers) for a large company and was audited and always was near perfect, I still can't balance a checkbook. Simple arithmetic.

For years, I did the wallpapering, interior painting, worked a full time job with lots of overtime, cleaned a 4 bedroom house, raised two boys, (was the only woman in a house with 3 males and all of this at the same time. I bought all the clothing, made all the doctor's appt, planned and cooked meals and decorated the house. In return he worked about the same hours, did the yard work until the boys got old enough to help, did repair work around the house (only after I told him it was broken beyond usage), and managed our major finances for investments. I paid all the bills until I retired when I handed it over to him and told him it was time for him to do it. Remember...I can't balance a checkbook.

I saw so much similarity in Mrs. D's, Cyclops, and GlennT's posts. So much that seems so like my husband and self.

We are a couple that is well matched. He is passive, introverted and shy. He is extremely smart, multiple college degrees and still wants to learn everything he can. I am a typical Leo, outgoing, tempermental, never met a stranger and wants to run the world! All in all, it comes down to this. Finding the right match.

Men are men and women are women. Seems so simple, doesn't it?

Billye

Billye:

You said: "Men are men and women are women. Seems so simple, doesn't it?"

Ever watch Jerry Springer? . What do you do when the man is a woman and you thought he was a man? There goes the venus and mars theory.

I once had a friend who was 20 years old (this was a lifetime ago), He went on a date with a beautiful woman. He comes in to work the next morning with a black eye. We all stood around him and said "what happened?" He said "I met the most beautiful woman last night". We all said "yeah?, and what happened?" He replied "well, She turned out to be a He and I almost decked him, but he got me first!!!!"

I will never forget that conversation and that was almost 40 years ago.

See?, Jerry Springer is not all fake. Things like that do happen.

lol.. Life is so funny sometimes.

Melody

Melody,
Didn't you see me wink after the "Seems so simple, doesn't it?" statement?

Nothing is simple. If you truly look, there are layers and layers to everything. Even something as seemingly simple as a word like hug. There are layers and layers to it. Boy..I'm weird tonight. A little philosophy thrown in.

Darn! There's another one of those little winkie, smilie things!

Billye

Yes I did miss it. I have to look at the screen more carefully. I had my eyes checked and the only problem I have is that when I read the newspaper, I sometimes have to use a magnifying glass. And the little labels on the side of bottles, forget it. I need the magnifying glass.

I got reading glasses last year. Never needed them and I now do not use them. Why?? Because I need the letters bigger, not clearer.

I should have told the eye doctor that when I got the glasses. I did see clearly when they put that gadget on your eyes and figure out which lenses you need. The doctor said "wow, you are almost 60, and you are just now getting reading glasses?"

When I got them, I went home and picked up the newspaper. Sure, I saw clearer but everything was still so small. I recently went back for sunglasses and I asked the person there? Is there a magnifying eyeglass thing because even thought stuff is clear, it is too small for me sometimes." She burst out laughing and said 'go and buy a full page magnifier".

Like I hadn't thought of that!!!!

Now really! lol

Melody

but, I did feel that your comments regarding LEF as the 'end all and be all' to all neuropathies and autoimmune issues to be far less sensitive than I believe you to be. I respect your advocay for a fairly reasonable position, but at times, honestly, I find it comes across as a bit pedantic, an advocacy to the degree of not listening to another and their particular and peculiar issues.. I mean absolutely no disrespect here, but at times you read and do not hear...the underlying issues and requests for support.

There are many new folks here who you have to be a bit more perceptive and receptive to about what their issues are and how those issues can be addressed safely. New people are here due to Celiac's, diabetes, and anti-botic reactions....more will come...not to mention the sprouting bunches of other auto-i folks such as myself.

Did you know, that one of my goals...has been to be ABLE to walk one mile without 3 days of pay-back? for the last 4 years? When you tell me you can walk/jog for miles...well, it's encouraging and hurtful at the same time. Encouraging that one can achieve it, hurtful that in four years, I cannot consider it...except in short 'bits'....bits add up tho, and that a combination of bits is what I strive for...having gone thru BC last year, the short walk for the 'cure' is even too far for me. Will you DO that walk for me when it's in your area? Thanks for listening - j
I'd give you a 'token' hug, but I gather you don't like them?

I'll take that hug,and please no comment on our hugging,we are
just trying to hold each other up. And while we are doing that
may i please have a dance,because i'm sick of dancing with my
walker. I just threw the darn thing down the stairs. And honest
i don't care if we ever have KIDS,how's that for a gender bender.
And David wher the hell do you think you going,nowhere because
we like you. This has been a interesting odd post. Thanks for
the dance j,your a great dipper. I'm so confused but what's
new. Sue OH David don't care if you like them are
not. Just keep posting my sweet family.

I don't consider LEF to be the "be all and end all" but they are worth reading, and provide a framework for dealing with whatever the health issue is. The details are important, but even more helpful is the LEF approach. They provide a framework and philosophy to set up your own road map to health. Going to doctors in and of itself isn't empowering. Going to doctors within the context of your own comprehensive program of coping with your health issues is empowering. Instead of being a victim and patient, you become a person with choices who is dealing powerfully with an extreme personal challenge. Successful or not, I think that in itself is worth while and helps one deal with being seriously ill.

I never complained, and reading the heartbreaking stories on this and the previous board am glad I never complained. We are ALL lucky, no matter what. I remember Kathy Miranda from Chicago, Gentle Giant, Rocky from Oz, Sunny from Mississippi, DesertGal from Bullhead City, and many others. One thing I get from this and previous boards is inspiration from so many wrestling with their own devils, scarier than mine, and finding the strength, grace, and courage to reach out and help others.

Still, I've been sick enough, from PN and other things. With PN, I couldn't walk a block for the first 3 or so years. I had the application for a handicapped parking permit, but never submitted it. At about three years I was desperate because 1) the doctors were more destructive than helpful and were totally negative, 2) acupuncture didn't help, and 3) herbs didn't help, and 4) the pain and loss of balance and leg coordination was getting worse and I was scared to death. Following Dr. Weil's advice to continue trying things and never give up or accept a negative prognosis, I decided to try yoga.

After about six months of extremely painful yoga (I could barely stand and had no balance), I had enough balance and reflexes back to walk a painful mile or so without tripping or falling. About that time I saw another neurologist who to me that exercise could only help, to ignore the pain and do what I could to restore function.

Just before getting PN, I backpacked for many mountainous miles a day, and ran up and down mountains for fun. That's out of the question now, but still I'm happy to be able to walk and work. Nothing was or is easy for me or anybody else, but what is the alternative to striving toward health and vitality?

I love hugs (human and animal), but the "token" hugs just don't give that deep and profound visceral heartwarming feeling. In a way, the last sentence of the previous paragraph is my way of hugging you. As they say, whatever rings your bell.

I have read this thread twice and have no idea what's going on!!

I reckon I'll hug me self!