Dear Almondface,
Whatever happened to you is not your fault. You are not the problem, the abuser is the one who is less than and has the problem. I too grew up in an abusive family and it made me very angry and doubt my self worth. Years later, I get that it was never about me. There is nothing I could have done to anticipate the abuse. I have found that I have a family of "origin" and a family of "choice" and I chose to be around much healthier people. I have trust issues as well, but I try to mirror and be what I want to attract in my life. I try to be the trust and integrity that I want in my relationships because I know that the fear of distrust could attract exactly what I don't want in my life. You are strong. Keep believing in the good in people and being the good. We are all here to help.

Hello Mirror! I see that this is your first post, so want to welcome you to NeuroTalk. You might want to put a thread in the New Members Introduction Forum. That way more members will see it and can welcome you, too.

Please take a look around and make yourself at home. Glad you found us.

I copied your post to the new member introductions.

Here is the link:

http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/ne...ostthread&f=88

Welcome to NeuroTalk. Great to see you have come to be with us. Just let us know if we can be of any help. We are all here to assist each other as possible.

Again welcome, looking forward to seeing you around.

Darlene

and I don"t feel that you will ever forget what happenen, its a matter
of whether or not we let it ruined our lives. I refuse to let it ruin mine anymore.. and have learned to go through the more positive side of things then the negative, and that has realy helped me move forwrd. those thoughts will always be there.. and i still dont trust anyone.. I mailnly
keep myself at a distantance from all i dont trust. I wish the best of luck.. my father is dead now... and i am so relieved that he can never do any more
damamge to anyone like he did to me. b est of luck to you hun. keep your chin up. Diane

You should of course trust people but be cautious with them, never trust anybody 100%

Hello there, yeah it is nice to try to trust someone again, it will help you move on to a new chapter of your life. Let time heal those pain.

its true we never forget - except when the memories are buried - its ok not to forget - wiht time - the memories become less painful - and we learn what we can from them -

we learn to trust again - we have to be careful who - but we do learn - we try to move on - grow and leave the past behind - we never forget but we can learn from it and move on

take care MBC

Hello there Welcome to this wonderful site! I am also pretty new here myself. Just been here about a week. I also suffer from PTSD. I understand your question, believe me. My baby son died from SIDS the day he turned 4 weeks old. I went on and had 3 more babies after kory died. I am so very glad I didnt just stay stuck in my depression and just "assume" that any other babies I might have would also die. Today I have 2 girls and 2 boys. Walking through that pain is sure worth it for me as far as dealing with my PTSD and going on to have more children. I still suffer recurrences, however. Whenever I am around someone asleep, I automatically check to mentally make sure they are breathing. If my life is always like this from now on, I accept that today. I feel like anyone else going through what I have gone through would react the same way as I do. It was, after all, a life-changing experience. The best to you and your own healing. Mykinzie.