Next week Dilema
 

:mad:Well Christmas and New year have passed, and although a bit bruised from continued family tribulations, i got through in one peice ish [ now i have what so many in the UK have the flu....swine bird..not sure its rough though.....my wife had it first.....and i thought i had escaped but................limbs ache muscles i thought did not exist ache and every breath is painful.........

Well [ignore the man-flu] sometime next week or even the week after i have to interview for a job in my companies new re-structure.

This should have happened in November,,,,but it all got stalled........then half the current management did not get roles in the new structure so there was no one to interview the rest of us..................[:(]

Hre is my dilemma......................

I have worked in this homeless hostel for eight years....................
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In theory you are meant to have a supervision meeting every month...........this meeting is to off load all the negative side of the job..........

then every 3 months you are meant to get a QPR quarterly performance review....this tells you how you are doing and what you should be doing...................

Then once a year you are meant to have an Annual Apraisal...........this is meant to map out what you have achieved and show your progression in your working role...............


So the stats are .....in the total 8 years of employment.......[1] Apraisal........
[8] QPR.........[24] Supervision meetings


in the last 4 years

[o] Apraisals [2] QPR's [3] Spervisions



In June last year i wastold a collegue had comitted suicide...........it turned out he attempted but was not successful....although early reports were he had died


My employers recation was disgraceful to be polite...................

I asked for help in that the company have occupational health specialists available............i saw a very nice and understanding Doctor.


He said my problem was that i work with a client group that present stressful situations, i then go home and continue stressfull situations, and other than my wife, and this here forum....i tell no one how im truely feeling

Telling my wife causes more stress....so i convey even less to her...

The soloution was that my company were failing my health and safety by not providing sound professional Supervision.......where i could off load job related rubbish on to managament.........................and there was a lot to dump believe me....................in twelve months...........three suicide attempts..2 arrests on site for Rape...............deportation from UK of one resident.............high level criminal activity...abuse .....threats of violence.......................................... ....

Then peace for the last three months of 2010....where residents took on board our move on positive campaign..................CITIZENSHIP COURSE............Which management previously said would never work..............i wrote a one month [20 sessions course] that had an 88% attendance................all the while my own 18 year old son was in my home [after 4 months of being away after i through him out] doing exactly what he was doing before......following no rules.....playing the BIG I AM...............and to save my mariage and family i bit my lip and ignored the whole display........................................... ....

So back to job and up coming interviews

I never applied for a management role.........all though i could have as i was ringfenced under my cyrrent role.

Why i did not is the problem........................after seeing the company doctor from my choice..................... i recieved a letter from him...which my emploer also recieved in June...............

They were meant to give me suppervission every 4 weeks..............and give me additional access to support/ counselling.................

JAN 2011 never had a supervision ......my current manager who is being made redundant...said say nothing until i have left .....................


I never applied for a management post because..........i have never been told in writing or formal meetings im doing ok.....or achieving..............................

I personally know i am.............i personal know and have external eviedence from other partnership agencies....i am highly regarded..................but my company never said a word..................SO i chose to go down the following route.........................apply for a lesser route [big drop in pay].......................and the put in a formal grievance against my company for their unproffessional and Crass attitude to their employees in general


A lot of my collegues say im cutting off my nose to spite my face....................others say my stand has real conviction and true meaning


after all we are a support organisation....and the top do not support the actual people delivering the support service itself........................


Question..................do you stand up for what you believe...=even if financialy you loose out or losse your job

or.....play the corporate game....get to the top by saying yes all the time...even when you know you should say NO THIS IS ALL WRONG

David


long winded im sorry ...........need to vent

i posted this song before but it remains my enigma

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nut5nQ-EMIE

David:hug:

Believe believe !!!!

What you believe !!!! what you believe for the win !!! :) :hug:

It happens to me all the time... "Why are you going to study that ?", "You are going to loose money" "You will never get a job".... BBBBUUUUUTTTTT ? That's what I believe in !!

Dear David... "Go be the one, who keeps on fighting, go be the stranger...." :winky:

Much love,
Majo.

The definition of courage is, to stand up for your principles despite personal risk.

Anyone who would chastise you for having morals is either too shallow and petty to have morals themselves, or they are just too arrogant to admit that they don't have the courage to follow their oun principles.

You have done what you know in your heart is right, and no one can judge you for that.

And why not ? more music !!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZ5KgfjgsBU

David... my answer to your question:
do you stand up for what you believe...=even if financialy you loose out or losse your job

I did stand up, and I quit ... and I lost financially...
but I'm happier than I've been in a long time.

Be proud of who you are David.

I know you're probably feeling like absolute crap because you have the flu... remember that this will pull your spirits down big time...

Write down the good and bad; take your time with decisions; hold your head high; and like a wise friend always says: TAKE CARE OF YOU!

Today is my birthday... today I was laid off my job ... and as far as I'm concerned, its another kick in the butt to keep on keeping on...

I'm totally ok... not panicking.. not freaking out... and not going to let this beat me down... I've got lots of aces in my back pocket...

Not telling you this to have you feel sorry for me... instead, to let you know you're not alone... with the tough decisions you have to make...

talk all you want to us... :hug:

well said lonley1 and blue...:grouphug: !

"But could a dream send up through onion fumes
Its white and violet, fight with fried potatoes

And yesterday's garbage ripening in the hall,
Flutter, or sing an aria down these rooms

Even if we were willing to let it in,"
Author..Brooks

http://quotes.dictionary.com/But_cou..._through_onion


Dream dear David...soar with the eagles.

(well said Addy, Blue and Lonely1)

Davd
 

Talk about bureaucracy! What a fight. You were absolutely right to file a formal grievance! Why can't life be easy??? Hang in there.

David, dear dear David, Your post did make me chuckle at times.."THE BIG I AM" indeed, so captures adolescent behavior in full bloom. Good on you for taking on the "hero role"...someone has to. :hug:

It's easy for me to say "soar with the eagles" when there is danger of falling from the sky...I'm sure there is nothing more you would like to do than soar but only you can judge the consequences of those decisions.

Your job has to be so stressful...social work always is on those people who truely care about their cliental...I know you do. And it would be so hard not to take your work home with you.

They are blessed to have you as an employee..I hope they "get it"

We are here, interested in the outcome and sending you positive thoughts....stay in touch. :grouphug:

Ditto to all the above and I am proud to call all of you my cyber-friends!

Doxie