Just an update
 

I've had a lot of personal and medical issues going on...

We owe over $2000 to the IRS from last year and add another $650 from this year. We're always squeaking by- living paycheck to paycheck... considering bankruptcy now. We have over $20K in unsecured debt between us, not including medical bills.

My husband got a new job that he says he likes, but he's not getting any overtime. He's making less. We emptied his old 401K to help pay off some of the IRS debt. We may have to use the rest to pay a bankruptcy lawyer. My husband's not sold on that yet tho.

My husband and I both smoke (at least I got him to switch from Marlboro's to a cheap brand) so that's $80 a week. He's drinking more, add a lot of beer to our "budget."

Add my PT at $30 a whack... twice a week $60. Sometimes I have other appointments... some weeks $150.

In addition to neck and shoulder issues, I have increased spasms in my legs, lower back, and butt; my balance is off and I'm much more fatigued. My concentration and cognitive issues are worse.

Now I have to see ANOTHER orthopedist because I have hip problems- just had an Xray on the right side that showed a cyst (I don't know where or what kind). I want an MRI on both sides because I need early intervention cuz I have enough problems walking and can't afford to be laid up.

I have to use a forearm crutch now... it's an adjustment. PT said I need both. I'm not ready for that. I had to pay $104 out of pocket because I need adult sized crutches (I'm 5'9") but need a pediatric cuff because I have a very small forearm. I'm trying to get reimbursement from my medicare HMO, but I doubt I'll be successful.

My husband is violently angry all the time now- but NEVER directed towards me. He throws things and screams. I don't want to be anywhere near him when he's like that, I think he's drinking more again because of anxiety and depression, but he absolutely refuses to see someone.

I've been battling depression and high anxiety for a long time now. My pdoc adjusted some meds. It's mostly helping with the anxiety, but not the depression.

I'm sorry I haven't been around, but I'm going to skip the excuses.

Love,
Kay

ph kay,
you have a lot on your plate right now.
thank you for checking in .
I wish things were easier, sounds really hard to deal with especially an angry husband.
take care of your self
bizi:hug:

i am so sorry you are going through all this. thank goodness your husband isn't taking it out on you. he sounds like a very good person who is over his head. you don't sound as if you are over your head but you must be. I know of somebody who buys pipe tobacco and rolls her own cigarettes with a machine and saves a lot of money. I had to give it up because of money but it is a big comfort. beer is a big comfort too. I am glad the pills are helping your anxiety. I can understand why you are depressed. As Bizi said, you have so much on your plate. please come here more often at least to vent.
fondly
bobby

hello there
 

Dear Kay

it is good to see you. i am sorry things are so difficult for you guys. it really sounds overwhelming. it must be hard with your hubby being so angry all the time. i am sure it is hard for him too, but i understand... i live with an angry person too. i am glad he does not take it out on you. sending (((hugs))) and good thoughts.

on a practical line of thought... i wonder if you can call on a free financial assistant. i believe there are agencies that help people set up plans for debt payments, with their creditors. i know of ppl who got in deep debt with credit cards, who went this route. i hope someone else here knows more... like maybe where to find these people.

come back soon. you can just vent or say hi. i have missed you.

waves

Kay,
Are these debts student loans? You have to keep very close contact with those folks of course. You also need to work out a plan with the IRS as you know.

I am wondering what will happen if you stop paying the unsecured debt? Medical debt can be tricky. A lawyer could help.
If your husband is not comfortable filing for bankruptcy yet, then give him time. He may come around.
What if you made an appointment by yourself for a free consultation with a lawyer? You might get information that would help you feel relieved. Also, with that information you might help your husband think this through a little.

M

I did have a free consultation with a bankruptcy attorney. I got copies of all our credit reports beforehand and gave him a list of all our creditors and how much we owe.
There is a means test for chapter 7, and they can't count my SSDI so we qualify. But the atty. said that we may end up subject to an audit- and have to supply a budget where those cigarettes and all that beer will be a problem.
Then, there's chapter 13, where a trustee figures out what our "disposable income is (doesn't include beer and cigarettes)" and then comes up with a plan with a single monthly payment distributed among your creditors. Unfortunately those monthly payments leave no wiggle room.
It's funny how much money it costs to hire a lawyer when you need one because you're broke.

I did look into debt consolidation/counciling. There are a lot of disreputable people/organizations out there. A lot of places won't even try to negotiate your balances down. Many creditors won't participate- especially if you're still trying to pay the minimum payment. I'm thinking about going to see someone locally. It's still worth a shot- as long as the initial consultation is free.

I have a private student loan I have to pay no matter what. 2 have already been discharged by the federal government due to total and permanent disability (I had to pay tax). I have 2 more eligible loans serviced by Sallie Mae. My doctor has sent the paperwork in twice, but they've sent it back for stupid reasons. I just sent it back again. They're terrible to deal with.

We're on an installment plan with the IRS for last year. Even though we sent the application in with our taxes last February, it wasn't approved until 2 months ago, and they still haven't withdrawn the funds from our account once. I've called at least 10 times about it.
We used money from my husband's retirement account to pay this year's tax bill.

When my pdoc tweaked my meds, she put me on cymbalta for the depression, increased anxiety, and hopes it would help with some of my pain.

It was helping with the pain, but I started noticing that I was more exhausted than usual and totally out of it. I was like a zombie. My balance was more off, too.

She did increase my klonopin by .5mg, but I've on that dose before. I decided to stop the cymbalta for a few days to see if it helped and it did. The pain is coming back tho. I'm going to leave her a message telling her I stopped it.

My appointment with the hip ortho got pushed back to this Friday. I hate not having answers. I called my PCP's office to get the location and hopefully the type of cyst, but haven't gotten a call back. I'm going to have to go to his office to get the Xray report. I don't do well without information.
When I see this hip guy I need to tell him it's not just the right hip and I want an MRI of both sides. I hope he's not an asshole, and does what I ask.

With all the bowel meds I'm on, I'm SO constipated... having awful pains in the lower left quadrant. I'm drinking mag citrate right now and hope I'll have relief by the morning, or I'm going to have to drink another bottle tomorrow night.

I'm having low-grade fevers 100.8 last time. I took an at home UTI test and it was negative (except for leukocytes- always have those). The little fevers are probably from the constipation.

hi kay,
heavy sigh about all of your stressors.
I wish things would lighten up for you.
ginnie on these forums swears by steel cut oats for relief of constipation, I have used myralax and that works...it comes in a powder that you mix with water, tasteless.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Kay

Sending you some hugs. Please keep your spirits up.

Give that doctor a call about the cymbalta.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

(((((( Kay ))))))

it really does sound like you did and are keeping on doing everything humanly possible... i'm so sorry the other parties are so unresponsive. that has got to be so maddening! :mad: ... not to mention frustrating and exhausting as the ball is basically left in your court to push and shove... sigh. :(

hope things start coming through for you soon in the debt department.

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good luck with the hip consultation. i hope the doc listens and gets you the exams you need.

hope your bowels are more cooperative soon too. the mag citrate should help, but adopting a dose of it as a nightly regimen to stay regular might be better for your system than using it as an extreme remedy when things get bad. you'd need to figure out the right dosage for you starting low, and incrementing on a weekly basis until you get results. clearly, you back off a bit on the dose if it "works too well."

(((hugs)))

waves

janet staples
 

i too have many problems and bipolar is one. i am fortunate to have great insurance. my best suggestion is to try and get as much exercise as possible.
i now have been diagnosed with Multiple system atrophy which should be a death sentence but too exercise helps.

:)

Bizi, thanks for the ideas to relieve constipation, but I have neurogenic bowel and it's like moving heaven and earth to poop most times.

Janet, I'm sorry you also have MS. Atrophy is no longer a death sentence. I'm glad you're able to exercise. I walk as much as I can and do some exercises from PT.

So, lots of MS symptoms have been getting a lot worse...

Woke to my alarm this morning and thought I must have had night sweats... until I realized I s*** the bed. This was no stray fart (it was everywhere) and I had no idea I had done it. I've crapped myself a bit 3 other times, but nothing like this. The sheets and quilt were destroyed and I cried while I spent over an hour trying to get the stain out of the mattress (I did).
I've also been having more problems with urinary incontinence and retention.

MAYBE the most troubling thing is increasing problems with my cognition. I really don't know what I'm doing from one moment to the next. My husband is frustrated because I do things like ask him the same question a minute later. I'm not retaining much information. I've noticed it for quite a while.

My balance is also worse, but I feel safer with the forearm crutch. I'm probably going to have to figure out how to use both soon.

I feel increasingly fatigued, but not like I was before I stopped Cymbalta. My tremor's a little worse.

None of these are new symptoms, just worsening. But I'm going to call my neuro in the am. I'm supposed to see her the 6th, but maybe she at least wants an MRI beforehand.

My PCP increased my neurontin and baclofen last month. I've probably been on them long enough to be used to them, but went back to the prior doses to see if my cognition improves (no results yet).
I'm also stopping trazadone. I've taken it for a couple years at night, but maybe it played a role in me shitting myself last night.

I got a copy of the Xray report on my hip. I have a "degenerative cyst" on the "femoral neck." So basically, I have some degree of osteoarthritis in my hip. My appt. is Friday.

i want to say something but not sure of what to say. you are definitely a hero. you show no self pity and continue to troop on. how precious you are.
i am sorry about the cognitive stuff along with the rest. Do you think the cognitive could be related to medications?
you are definitely hanging in there and you should be so proud of yourself.
fondly
bobby

Kay

I think you are a hero also, and a gem of a person.

Sending some hugs, and wishing I could give them in person.

Please hang in there and give yourself some slack.

Maybe part of the problem with the cognitive is your trying to hard.

That honestly was mine, and I think you maybe seeing a side effect
even though you didn't take the cymbalta long. But partially from
that. Its something that can happen.

I had a really big slide in cognitive when I had to stop my cymbalta, with
nothing to replace it with. Once I added the generic celexa, it was a
big help.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Well the mag citrate can do that to you. There is a product out there that has mag citrate in a powder form, I believe it is called calm. You mix it with water, 3 heaping teaspoons with 3-4 oz of warm water then fill up the glass and drink. have you ever tried the myalax before. it really does work.It is kinda of expensive but works $18 for a months supply I think generic.now that you are cleaned out this would be the perfect time to start taking it.
You are a brave woman, I admire you.
sorry you are dealing with all of these changes.
you are going thru so much.
((((((HUGS)))))
bizi

hi
i use the kirkland substitute for miralax. i get it from amazon and it comes in three bottles with 30day supply in each and costs 35 dollars. hope this helps.
bobby

Please- no more suggestions about bowel meds. I won't mention bowel issues again either.

I went to the ortho today and he is not concerned with the cyst, but thinks I may have a labral tear (tear around the tissue in the joint). I'll have to have a MRI with a big old contrast injection into my groin to confirm. Not scheduled yet.

Bobby, I think meds can be contributing so I'm tweaking them. Definitely cymbalta was a problem- that's gone. Now I'm thinking the baclofen (antispasmotic) may have been increased to fast.

Donna, I wish the problem was that I'm trying too hard, but that's not it.

Thanks for all your support guys.
Kay

Kay

Have a great weekend, My only suggestion is to try and drink water
That is what I do.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Dear Kay,

I wish you were doing better. I am amazed at how well you keep track of meds, symptoms, side effects, docs.

Maybe the two med changes you mentioned will help improve cognition.

M

((((Kay))))

here is something for you.

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~ waves ~

I'm hanging in there, despite medical issues, but I've been battling depression since Dec.
I saw the pdoc last week and told her about the cymbalta and told her I'd had enough of the depression. She added a little zoloft at night- 25mg for 2 weeks, then 50mg.
I'm very leery of antidepressants since they tend to induce mania (and I've had plenty of that) but I'm on 200mg of lamictal and 300mg lithium in the am, 450mg in the pm and the zoloft dose is so small... but I'm still crossing my fingers.

My hip is feeling a little better, so I'm going back and forth on whether or not I'm going through with the MRI.
I'll talk to my PCP about it when I see him on Friday...

It's a follow up. I've been having near fainting spells when I'm standing up... everything starts to fade to black and I have to sit down fast, then lay down. I've missed 3 appointments because of it. The NP I saw just ran some bloodwork (my pdoc got it so I know it was all normal). I have a history with this tho. and think it's probably the same thing. Fortunately I haven't passed out. I drink 3 liters of water a day and eat well.

I saw the neurologist. I don't have to have another MRI until Sept. She's just going to follow me over time (woo-hoo!) She agrees with my decision to stay off any of the MS meds for now. Neither of us is convinced they will work. She says the bowel incontinence happens, usually infrequently. Most of the treatments are invasive and she doesn't think it's needed now. But I have to see a urologist.

So, I think that's about it.

Thank you all for your support! I hope you are all well.

Kay

Thank you for the update kay.
I am sorry for your near fainting spells that must be scarey. You have so much on your plate, bless you.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

hello Oh Kay
 

I sure understand your frustration. The debt thing alone is enough to send a person into panic mode. I face loosing my home as well. So I do know what some of the financial problems can be like. You have more on your plate than you should. I wonder if you could talk to someone just for yourself. sometimes there are womens centers located in towns. They can give council without charge in many cases. I wish your husband would be in a better frame of mind for you. It is hard to be around someone who is raging at the world. He can't cope and that is why he is acting out. I have had a few fits myself, and it usually is over finances on top of health issues. I did get help however, and talk to a psych often. I know this has helped me cope better than I did. I also come back here as often as I can to get good support from those on line. I wish there was something I could say to ease your way. It does help to vent. tap back at me anytime and I will listen. ginnie

Hi, Kay,

It is good to hear from you. I hope the Zoloft helps.

Keep taking care.

M

Hope things get better for you. I'm in a similar situation with medical bills, I'm only 21 :(

hello there
 

Dear Kay

hi there. i am so sorry about the fainting spells... how scary. :( and i can appreciate the simple nuisance aspect in terms of appointment planning etc. more important perhaps though is i really hope you don't hurt yourself. :o :hug::hug::hug:

glad the hip is feeling better. go with your gut on the MRI as to whether you think you need it.

nice to hear you have a neuro finally who is on the same page as you. :)

i hope the Zoloft helps with the depression. That is a good, slow titration plan, so hopefully plenty of time to catch emerging hypomanic sx and d/c.

Lamictal should help potentiate antidepressant effects, and it should also help prevent rapid cycling. (That, as well as net manic switches, can sometimes be preciptated by the AD's.) R/C is what is starting to happen to me on Zoloft - i no longer have access to Lamictal. :( And i am still below baseline... i.e. depressive sx even at the "peaks" of the cycling. arghh. but i am doing much better than i was, so i can't complain.

I hope your husband is able to come around to find a way of coping that is not alcohol... meanwhile i am glad to know he does not turn his outbursts on you. You have my continuing best wishes on finding ways to manage the ongoing financial issues also.

You always amaze me at how together you sound. Then, i turn around and worry about times you perhaps do not feel so together inside. i send you many warm thoughts and extra hugs :hug::hug::hug: for those times. I do think of you often. Please know you are remembered and cared about here, even when you aren't posting.

Sending many caring thoughts :circlelove: and (((:heartthrob: hugs :heartthrob:)))

~ waves ~

Jme, I'm sorry you're having to deal with such hefty medical bills at 21. I'm 31 now, mine didn't start until 2008. Most hospitals will allow you to pay very small amounts (ie/ $5-10 a mo.). Here in Mass. privately practicing docs can refuse to see you unless you pay off all or most of your balance.

Ginnie, I'm sorry for your financial problems, too. Mortgage companies are supposed to work with consumers, but I had no luck. I was unable to work and had to wait for disability for a year. I jumped through hoops to no avail and we were forced into a short sale in 2010. We had a 2 story condo and it wasn't really safe for me anyway- I kept on falling up/down the stairs. We're in a 1st story apt. now.

I am pretty isolated. Once I started to decline, my friends started to drop off one by one... funny because most of them were nurses, nursing students, and CNAs. I think it's partially because people don't want to be reminded that they're also vulnerable.
Over the last 6 months (at LEAST) my best and really only close friend left has started to push away. She's a nurse and told me a couple of months ago that she spoke to her councilor about me... and the councilor said that my friend needed to stop trying to fix me and maybe I just needed someone to listen. I listen to her PLENTY.
I guess that didn't help because I sent her multiple texts and left a couple of messages over 2 months that have gone unanswered. I've brought up the drifting apart thing before and she always tells me how busy she is, but always has all these stories about all the things she's been doing outside of work. I called her on her birthday and left a message, and she called me back the following day. She talked for 15 minutes uninterrupted.
I broke off her topic. She denied getting ANY of my texts or messages and blamed her phone. She asked me how I was feeling and I told her that I didn't feel comfortable sharing any of that with her, since she obviously can't handle it. I told her that she has drifted away, etc. Had it actually been her birthday, I never would have gotten into any of this. I never raised my voice- I only do that when I'm manic.
When I was in high school and my mother was dying, most of my friends abandoned me. After she died, it was, "I'm so sorry about your mother. Do you want to do X on Friday?" Well, this time around, the MS isn't going away- it's just going to get worse. The BP won't vanish either.
I love her and I may understand why, but this relationship has only been causing me pain. I'm tired of crying over this. In my experience, she will only drift further. I really just want to tell her to F* off and maybe call me when she can accept me as I am. That way, I can take control... you're not ditching me- I'm ditching you.

My husband has been drinking a LOT. The 1st time we had a talk, he cut back. Then after a short period, he ramped up again. Larger quantities, more days of the week. I mentioned it again on Thursday and he got VERY angry, but only had a few on Saturday. Sunday he finished the small bottle of vodka I keep for an occasional bloody mary. But nothing since (fingers crossed).
I get into our lack of sex life another time.
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Waves, The pdoc offered up the low-dose zoloft or an increase in the lamictal. I let her choose. She was concerned because I already have a lot of mood stabilizers on board. I'd balk at anything other than a low dose.
This depressive episode is rare and going on 3 months. I tend towards mania- lots of mania. I'd rather be depressed than manic, but both have obvious draw backs.

As far as the spells are concerned, I was doing alright until this morning. I was smart enough not to get into the shower until the evening when I was feeling better. I see my PCP Friday morning.

I'm still not settled on the hip MRI. I'm in pain, but it's not severe. I'm going to let my PCP make the call since I'm notorious for my inability to make decisions. He'll probably have me go tho.

I am wearing my new glasses. It's an adjustment- little headache because they're stronger, getting used to the new look, etc.

Thank you to everyone again for your support,
Kay

Again, you have alot on your plate.
I am sorry about this friend of yours.
It is hard letting go of the past relationship, how things used to be but we change and so do our friends. Keep the lines open if that is what you want to do. Maybe let go of trying to control the out come and just go with the flow???? I don't know that is a hard call. I have ended a friendship not nicely before when I saw that we had changed, grew apart. It was unpleasant.
hugs to you tonight
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Hello OhKay
 

Friends do leave you sometimes when a person gets sick. The real friends in your life stay. It sorts through them pretty quick when a person faces real touble, pain and hardship. This site won't abandon you thats for sure.
I do have legal aid in the works to help me with my financial crisis. My home is in a trust which is a huge complication. They are looking for a pro-bono lawyer to help me. It will turn out OK in the end.
I hope you are alright today. I also am keeping your husband in my prayers, so he doesn't drink. that doesn't help you at all!. My folks drank, and it only made my life worse. I am here anytime to listen to you. You do have new friends right here. ginnie:hug:

Thanks Bizi and Ginnie :grouphug:

I have decided to end the friendship. It will hurt less than the unanswered texts and messages and her excuses. The hoping and waiting is the worst. I rarely get into arguments. I won't tell her to F* off, but I will tell her that I love her, but it seems like she's already checked out of our friendship, how that makes me feel, and tell her to feel free to contact me when she's in a place where she can accept me as I am.

I'm concerned about isolation, but our friendship isn't helping with that anyway. I do have friends, but they're heavy drinkers and I'm not (unless I'm manic). No phone conversations, and the only contact centers around drinking. I like to avoid the pressure, and drunk people are especially unappealing when you're sober.

My husband brought home beer today. He drank them all, but at least it was only a 12 pack.

Kay

Dear Kay,

Sometimes when someone not helpful is removed, you open up space for a new friend.

I can hope for that for you -- that you have someone good for you.

M

Thank you, Bizi :hug:

I got a new lens script and picked out a pair of frames I love... but I had to go back 2 more times because of a poor fit. 1st they painfully dug in behind my ears and they were sliding down making red marks around my nose. The 2nd time, I had to go back because the frames were still sliding and making red indentations around my nose. I couldn't wear them for more than an hour or 2 because they were too uncomfortable.
Finally we decided I needed different frames. The optician was trying to talk me into the kind with nose pads, but I told him I'd get indents and eczema from the nose pads and have had 3 pairs of plastic frames without issue. I showed him the difference between the bridge on the glasses. The new ones were much narrower, and I thought that was the issue. He measured the 2 and agreed it was a big difference, so we looked at plastic frames with a wider bridge.
I was able to find a pair with a similar bridge measurement to what I am wearing. The cost is the same, so they'll just switch them out. I HOPE these will work out fine. They should be in by Monday.

I had a follow-up with my PCP about the pre-syncope (near fainting). I need to have a tilt table test, but I can only go to one of the two hospitals in town and they don't do the test. No word back from the office about how they will handle this.
I've been waking up in severe pain, like charlie horses but different. Also more tremor, day pain, and head bobbing. I guess it's the spasticity from the MS so they increased my baclofen.
Good news is, I haven't s* the bed again WOO-HOO!

My husband came home the day before St. Patrick's day with 2 30 packs. I used 4 cans for the corned beef, but he finished the few stragglers Monday night. That's 56 beers Friday-Monday.

This is embarrassing, but another troubling thing is that we have no sex life. This began years before I was dx with MS. It's partly his masturbation, partly his drinking. I've talked to him about it before. He promises to try harder, but doesn't deliver. I've gotten denied so many times, I'll only try sporadically and almost always get turned down. When he engages, he can't finish. He's too used to solo sex.

So far, the zoloft hasn't helped my depression, but I go up to 50mg tomorrow. I hope that can make a difference.

So, things aren't going well but I'm hanging in there and trying to roll with the punches.

Kay

Hi Kay
 

Hope your new glasses work out OK. I just wanted to make a comment about beer. That much beer would stop anyone from sex. Nobody I know of can drink like that and function normally. The issues of calories isn't so good either. Not for his health, blood sugar or weight. I hope he can stop. I don't think the problem is his self gratification, more like the drinking. My parents were drinkers, and they weren't physical at all during my growing up years. Hope you are OK. There is a cousin of mine who has MS so I do know some of what you go through. I wish you all the best. I hope your love for each other can see you both get closer. I will keep you in my prayers. ginnie

Thank you for sharing kay.
Isn't it nice to know that we can come here and bare our souls and not be judged.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi
I am sorry that you struggle....

Dear Kay,

It hurts to talk about this. I understand a little. My first husband had a major medical problem. At a certain point he could not perform. He left me.


The beers and the other stuff could change if he 1) recognizes the problem, and 2) is motivated to get help for change. (That is what my tdoc would say probably) Things can get better.
For now, I am happy about your glasses. Mine are so important to me and like them to feel perfectly on my face too. I hope that your pain is relieved.
I hope that the Zoloft increase brings you benefits.


M

Hi Kay,

i am sorry to hear about your domestic situation. i don't have advice really. i do know a person has to admit to see a problem in themselves and be motivated to change. they also have to feel they can change somehow... with addictions that isn't always real intuitive. i hope your husband does have a breakthrough, and chooses to get help.

congrats on the glasses! i have 3 pairs, all sorta kinda broken. i am wearing the oldest of the lot - 20 years old, lol. they are in best shape, but the frame got somehow bent (others are snapped) so they are a little lopsided. i cannot get myself to spring for a new pair. i have intended to get really dark prescription shades too for when i have migraines. some sort of persnickety thing about getting the exact tint and having had to argue with the technicians in the past is holding me back.

i hope the Zoloft helps and does not make you manic. i hope that the baclofen helps with the pain and other MS sx too.

keep in touch. we will always listen. i am sending lots of good thoughts your way.

(((((hugs))))))

~ waves ~

Hi waves
 

Hi waves, I just got new glasses this year. I did spring for the very best and got transitions. Best thing I ever did for myself. The tinting for indoor and then out door is fantastic. Never have to worry about the sun and I live in florida. I also have that gradual close to distance that I should have done years ago. If you go shopping for some, check them out, you may think it is worth the price. I got one free with the purchase of one. Waited for a sale. have one for everyday, and one to look snappy with. Just thought you might want to know about this kind of glasses. I am 60 and I never thought that I would like something like this. ginnie

Dear Kay,

i apologize for the digression re: my optical requirements. :o:Sigh:


Dear Ginnie,

I am aware of Transitions but thanks for the "tip."

I'll explain. Migraines come with photosensitivity. i want 2 separate and distinct pairs of glasses: 1. For normal use, photochromatic ones (lighten and darken). 2. For migraines, dark glasses which stay dark wherever i go.

it sounds as if you are going through the trials of Job. is your husband affectionate at all? is he giving at all? that must be so painful for you.
fondly
bobby