Now my dad is sick.
 

My Dad is 92,and 1/2 years old,and has pneumonia. I don't know if he will live through that at his age. He forgot my birthday last month. I haven't heard from him in a long time. He told me a while back that he wanted to be left alone.:( He's in a nursing home.

My sister is still in guarded condition in a transitional hospital facility. She can only whisper. My brother in law said that he's heard her talk out loud when I wasn't there. She's still on oxygen that goes into her throat through a tube that was surgically implanted.

I am very sad,and hope that they both survive. BF:(

Dear Steve,
 

Hi, Steve,

Keep your faith.


I hope that you are o.k.

Mari

Steve
Please take care of yourself. Your father is in the best place he can be
to get the care he needs. Can you go visit with him? If so I would for
a little while one or two days a week. This will be some of the best medicine
he can get.

About your sister keep the faith, as you have been. She is a fighter, as you know. She will keep fighting. Since you can't get there very often.
Suggestion for you for her.

Tape record her some reading. Something that her nurse can start for her to listen too. That way you will be there more often for her.

And she can listen to things she enjoys by you reading them to her.

Donna:hug::grouphug:

hi steve, sorry about your dad 92 is very old as you know. visit when you can.....Is your sister still on isolation?
that makes it difficult to visit freely and sets up isolation for her...I hope that she is not.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

She's in a room all by herself. There are computer monitors around her,and the tube that goes in her throat makes a washing sound at the wall behind her. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Oh Steve, I am so sorry. I remember your sister was in the hospital, but I had no idea she was still so bad off. My prayers for her and your dad to get better. Please don't be hard on yourself if you can't visit. You can only do what you can do. No more. Keeping you in my prayers too Steve. :hug:

Im sorry to read this when it rains it seems to pour.

Wow, it is pouring on you. I am glad your sister is making strides Steve. Things sound better. I am sorry to here about your Dad, I can't believe what a long life he had, but except his currant health problem. Some times as they age the heart gets weaker and congestive heart problems can cause fluid build up. Always remember he has had a longer life then I think any of us expect to have, each one a blessing, but your Dad may have been depressed in the nursing home wanting to be left alone. Go see him, if he can talk, have him share his great memories and hold them close. My Dad was 76 I was 46 when he passed and I miss him still. But, I have so many things he told me about the last several months he was with me.

He was living with me, but I kept his home next door going for the earlier good days. The last few weeks he was preparing to leave, sad, tired, but verbalized want a fulfilling life he had.
My prayers are with you and your loved ones.:grouphug:
Love you,
Di

I am so sorry to hear about your dad being sick. Please know I will be praying for him.Take the time to visit him as much as you can even if he says he wants to be left alone.It is time you will never regret spending with him.I know because my mom was only 55 when she passed 18 years ago. He really doesn't want to be alone he is most likely just huet for some reason. I will be praying for you and your family.
Gail

hang in there dear
 

Oh Steve,

this is so much to bear.

I hope you can visit your dad. If he is in bad shape with the pneumonia you can just sit with him and hold his hand. I like Donna's idea of recording your voice for your sister... check with the facility whether they will allow her to have the equipment in the room to listen, but I would think so, since there are other machines.

I send you much love and lots of (((( HUGGGGS )))). And send healing thoughts to your dad and sister. I will pray for them too.

:circlelove:

~ waves ~

I'm so sorry Steve. It hurts so bad to see the ones we love hurting. I'm so sorry that all of this is happening :Heart: I pray for God's mercy & healing on both of them.

My dad is getting better. I talked to his nurse on the telephone,and she said that he's had breakfast. They say that he's on oxygen on,and off or he gets confused. BF:hug::hug::hug:

Thank you butterfly. He's out of danger right now,as far as I know. BF:hug::hug::hug:

That is good news Steve. I hope his breathing can improve so he can be off the oxygen. :Heart:

My sister is doing so much better that they took her off oxygen. She can talk out loud,eat,and she said that she will be glad to go home soon.

My dad is on oxygen,and he's doing better then he was last week. My pastor prayed,and dad looked different after the prayer. I think that it was peace that dad felt,and he relaxed. BF:hug::hug::hug:

prayer will do that so glad to hear he is doing better will continue to pray for you and your family
Gail

Prayer works wonders. Great news all around!
Thanks for he update, signed in looking for good news!
Di

steve this is such good news thanks for letting us know.
(((((HUGS))))))
bizi

Steve

So glad to hear this. I am so glad prayers are answered.

And your sister wow, what a strong lady.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

This is so wonderful. Your sister must have come a long way for them to discontinue the oxygen. I hope both her & your dad continue to improve. :Heart:

My Dad passed away at 7 PM Sunday night from double Pneumonia. He was in a coma when my brother in law,and I got to the nursing home Sunday afternoon. He didn't respond to my voice. I put my hand under his hand,and there was no response. BF:(

I'm so sorry to read this Steve. (((Steve))) You know he is in a better place. :hug:

thinking of you
 

Dear Steve,

I'm so sorry! :( :( :(

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((((( :Heart: HUGGGS :Heart: )))))

~ waves ~

Oh Steve, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. :hug:

Steve

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you could be there for the last few
hours.

I will be thinking of you.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

My condolences, to you Steve. It has to be extra difficult when he rallied so well, to have this sudden turn.

Dear Steve,

My condolences. I am sorry. :hug: :hug: :hug:

'Sending love and prayers to you and your family.

M

My thoughts are with you. :hug:

oh steve I just read your news...am so sorry.
you are a good son, know that.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

So sorry BF
 

I am so sorry for your loss and grief. I will be thinking about you, and of course your family. It is always hard to loose those we love. All of us will be here for you. ginnie

Thank you every one. I'm in a lot of grief. I've been thinking about how he supported me,and sent me to doctors. He didn't know what was wrong with me,but he knew that I had many emotional problems. He had a stroke about 13 years ago,and then my sister started to help me. Now she's in a hospital because of MS,and about to go to a nursing home for physical therapy. BF:(:hug::(

Dear Steve, :Heart:

my heart is heavy for you. you have been on my mind all day.

i hope your sister will have a good recovery in the nursing home. it is probably good that she will continue to have wrap around care during her convalescence. i am going to think positive for her. know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

love

~ waves ~

It was so very sad watching him struggling to breath while he was in a coma,in the last hours of his life.

I tried to call my counselor today,but they where closed because it's Presidents Day. I don't know what to do. BF:hug::(:hug:

Steve I am so, so sorry that your dad went to heaven. As someone else has said, he is in a better place, but I know you & your family will miss him.

"The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18

I pray that God be near to you now more than ever, and that you can feel His love & presence. :Heart:

Dear Steve,

Hopefully you can speak to your counselor tomorrow.

Meanwhile... can you cry? read Psalms? Pray? ... it doesn't matter if you just ramble, just open a channel you know... God already knows your suffering.

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There is a prayer for (all of) the dead which is also offered, in Catholic tradition, when a person passes away. I have offered it for your father. I will do again, also. I learned it in another language and it is beautiful in that language... it imparts a sense of peace. Here it is in English, if you want to try it:

Eternal Rest grant unto them, o Lord
And let perpetual light shine upon them;
May they rest in peace.
Amen.

hang in there dear heart. :hug::hug::hug::hug:

~ waves ~

Prayer to your guardian angel
 

This is a prayer to ask for help from your Guardian Angel:

Angel of God,
Appointed by the divine mercy to be my guardian,
Enlighten and protect,
Direct and govern me this day.
Amen.

I feel better. My brother in law who is a doctor said that there is a nickname for pneumonia. He said it's called,"The old mans friend". If a old person is suffering,pneumonia may take them out of their misery.

Dad had been mumbling for a while now,and he didn't seem to know what was being said. He seemed like he couldn't hear very well. This is what my brother in law said. I noticed that dad couldn't remember things last Sunday,8 days ago.

They put him on morphine yesterday. I didn't know this,but it helps dying people to breath. They also put him on Ativan. So he may not have been suffering. I prayed for him. A pastor connected to the nursing home was going to come to see him also, I was told by one of the administrators of the nursing home. BF:hug::(:hug:

Dear Steve,

I am so glad your brother-in-law spoke gave you this new information about your dad's condition, and regarding his medication. It does not take away the loss and grief, but it is a relief to know he was not suffering the way you thought. And it is good to know that a pastor went in to see him, too.

Thank you for sharing. :hug::hug::hug::heartthrob:

~ waves ~

Hi BF
 

I am praying for you. I am glad your father had morphine, both my folks did too and it was a mercy. We are all thinking about you during this grief. All of us care about you. ginnie:grouphug:

Dear Steve,

'Thinking about you. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

Mari