Easy way out??
 

I've been struggling with this crps beast for 7 years. I was blessed to have the opportunity to work until May 2013. My crps spread from my lower half to my right hand, arm, shoulder and neck in April 2013. I can no longer do the things I love and found myself focusing on my immediate family by helping them live their lives. Today, my family said I should end my life so they can get on with theirs.. I've not contemplated suicide until today. This battle will never get easier and without the support of my loved on I feel like David and Goliat. I'm just so sad after everything that transpired today.

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What a throughly evil thing to say. Get out find somewhere else to live and tell them as far as you are concerned they are all dead to you.

Seriously? I would find a way to give this craps to them. Sorry but I'm a jerk (insert word starting with be for jerk). Don't take the "easy" way out. I live by a good saying when people act like that around me. God don't like ugly. The person that said that was being a selfish jackass. I would have smacked them with my cane. Don't let their negativity get to you. They are jerks and karma will come back and bite them in the but hard. I've been dealing with this for 10 yrs. You can and will get through this low period.

Swatgen.......

So sorry to hear about those comments from your family. I can't imagine how I would feel if I were in your shoes.

You may have to make some adjustments in your family life and I agree that you should try talking this out with a good friend, therapist, or a family member that you do trust and love.

We're here for you 24/7 too. Post and vent any old time you want! Just the process of writing down your feelings can be helpful.

Hang in there. Your life has much worth no matter what others may say or feel. Don't let this monster of a disorder define you.

Keep us updated........

Wow!

What a horrible thing to say :shocked:

Is there any way you can distance yourself from them...move and cut ties with them??

:grouphug:

So Sorry
 

I cannot believe what was said to you!!!I wish I could pop through this screen and hit them,then give you a hug..I would tell them you are done with them,no matter what part of family they are....Ask them how they would like to be in your shoes....Please pray for guideness..Do not let them win,or RSD..We are all here for you..God Bless:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

Wow...just...wow. That is probably the worst thing I can imagine hearing from family. My motto in life is generally that the only people who have the power to hurt me are the ones I care about...and to hear something like that from people I care about would devastate me.

So now you have to decide what you're going to do about it. Suicide...not an option...don't you consider it at all. But perhaps it is time for a new start...a new life. No one deserves to hear what you did...it's cruel, evil, selfish...and you should not be around people like that. You are going through enough without needing that thrown on top of everything else.

Keep us updated and know that we are here for you.

I was hoping after a good nights rest I would miraculously feel better but that is not the case. I'm a very easy going person and tend to not let a lot of things bother me but what was said has shaken me to my very core and my soul. To be honest I'm still trying to figure out what to do... With my support system gone, I feel completely lost. Over the years I have incurred multiplied of instances of discrimination relating to my CRPS but the prior cases are minor compared to yesterday's cruel comments. I will need sometime to get my thoughts in order so I plan on staying with my best friends house (she is my sister from another mother, lol.) I'm overwhelmingly depressed and I know that just being with her will help me.
Thank you for your kind words and great advice. Your comments touched my heart and the words of encouragement lifted my spirits.
Sarah
Xoxoxo

WTH ? Really stupid of them
 

Hello Dear Swatgen27

I too focus on family and help my mom, the kids and grandkids out as much as I can. I was super everything before this started. But I would sincerely hope that NONE of my immediate family, all 12 of them would ever be so insensitive, evil and just dang stupid to say something like that to me. God please have mercy on these poor, misguided fools.

Who in your immediate family would say something like that to you ?

My heart just hurts for you and I'm so very angry too. Each person is a precious gift from the Lord above.

Please know that we are are here for you and 'ending it' is not an option for u. I agree with everyone else on here that u need a professional to talk to. A third party not involved in the emotions is always helpful from my standpoint.

Stay strong sweet lady and please keep us posted on how it's going for u...WE CARE about you very much.

Debi from Georgia :grouphug:

I just saw your new post......I am so glad u have somewhere to go. Let your dear sister give u the love and support u need right now.

Sarah, sorry I have been having a much tinier attitude-based family crisis myself, and your posts have put mine into perspective a bit. I can't believe how cruelly you've been treated, and that truly is an evil thing for them to even think, let alone say out loud to you.... I can't imagine how upsetting it all is, but I know it took great strength to write about it and reach out.

As others have said, you need to get away from such monsters and let them live their own dreadfully empty and mean lives without you. I am so glad you have a friend to go to, and are doing just that. You are one brave and resourceful woman, and it breaks my heart that a decent person like you can be treated like this. You must never ever ever believe that sort of crap - it is low, vile and contemptuous.

This disease sucks our very souls out sometimes and makes the bottom of that deep dark well seem very close... Remember it is always your life and your choice what you do with it. No one can ever take that right away from you, and you must always believe that you are worth so much more even with all the problems this disease has given you, than they are worth with all their physical health. Worth is not measured by what you can do - but by what you choose to do. Not by physical strength, but by mental strength and heart. Not by actions, but by thoughts and dreams, hopes and kindness. Those are things that decent people value and remember.

I wish you all good things. You deserve better, and I believe you will find it away from these people. They might be tied to you by your family tree, but as the saying goes, 'you can choose your friends, you can't choose your family'... Cut the branch of that tree and grow stronger elsewhere.

Good luck and I hope we hear of better times ahead for you very soon. I'll be thinking of you.

Bram :hug:

Were family member/s really serious when this was said??:eek:

Was it said as a tasteless/sarcastic joke, said in anger at the moment, out of frustration? :confused:
I just can't fathom anyone saying something like that and really meaning it..

Dear Swat,
That was so unimaginably horrible! I was just hoping it was a an over the top "heat of the moment" thing. Just so cruel! You poor dear, you're shaken to the core, but still strong and smart enough to know what you need to do.
I'm glad you have a "sister" to go to and you have us with you always in thought and spirit. :hug:

I was so glad to see your new post..Keep the faith and keep strong..You are Gods child remember ,trust in HIM...

Hi Swat,

That was obviously a horrible thing for anyone to say. I hope you are at your friend's house now and are feeling a bit better.

Hang in there.

Kim

Swat im so sorry anybody would say such a horrific thing to you! That's just horrible! That said I completely understand where you are coming from, After I couldn't work anymore I dived in and started helping caring for family with extensive health issues. However after 4yrs of doing it, Ive been doing a lot of reflecting and I realized I lost who I was after I was injured and then when I plunged into caring for family, my life consumed around that, and so I still never had found who I truly am after everything. So im making MAJOR changes for ME. My life does not revolve around my family, I do have one outside of it, I just need to find it. So by doing what ever im doing on this quest, im going with my good friend on a trip for a day, just a day, but its a day just for ME! So take however much time and find who you are outside of your family, because there is a YOU, and YOU matter, and YOU deserve happiness!

Wise words tos8 :)

Ending your life is not the answer. You have so much in this life that you still can do! I know it doesn't feel like that now, but there is more. Call the local suicide prevention hot line. If you are connected to a place of worship, contact a clergy member. Find someone who will listen and help you. Please don't give up. You are worth fighting for.

I'm glad you're with your sister. I know it's hard. You can fight back. Nothing is wrong with you and everything is wrong with the family members that told you to u-know-what. I won't even type it. I know about family members.......my dad, in 8 yrs, has never once asked how I'm feeling. I had 3 back surgeries for RSD and never called to see how I was. My mother doesn't know the name of my condition. I asked her a coupe months ago. I live with her you think she would know by now (8 yrs running) lol. 2 of my closest friends are no longer friends and I knew them each for 30 years (since I was 7 yrs old). They treated me horribly because of my pains. I know family members aren't something that you can no longer speak to but their advice is ridiculous and extremely wrong! Hon there is always hope. It's not a well that dries up.

Post here when you lose hope. Even if it's every day. One good thing is that we ALL understand what you're going thru.

Take care of yourself,
Heather:hug::hug:

I am really a big chicken!!!!!I don't do well with pain, I am so independent. I love cooking for people.I too am very depressed. I can not take antidepressants due to a adverse reaction. I take care of others.I really feel like all of us have hope, there is research going on every day. People do get better...out of the blue, some in remission. Love the good times you have.
Show them you have not given up, honestly we are still here for a reason. He could have just taken us!!!!! We do have a purpose.Is this a lesson for us or some of our family members to appreciate want me have. I know I am a good person and my opinion matters more to me than anyone else's . I Don't want to hear you are giving up. If a big chicken like me can do it ..you can. I have seen that some people do 20+ years. We can and do get better. Please don't let someone like that get you down.... Show them you can and will get better. As someone said we can't pick our family but we can our friends.

Wow, I cannot fathom someone saying this to a loved one!! They are supposed to pick you up, not knock you down. I'm so very sorry, but you're life is still worth something even with RSD!! Do not give up, and know that you have plenty here you can lean on. I'm so very sorry.

TK

Hang in there. There is life after RSD. It's going to be tough without much of a support system but you'll have to be tougher.

Just pray that your family eventually finds the sensitivity or understanding they lack.

Some people think this is all in the mind and they might have just been trying to get you to "snap out of it". Don't give up on them but don't take any of their misguided statements to heart.

Best wishes.

Hi Swat, I keep writing things to you and then I delete them. I don't know how to say how special you and your life are. So I am going to just say that you and your life are special and that you and your life are worth living for. I'm always here if you need a friend. Sincerely, Renee.

calling Swatgen
 

Are you OK? Haven't seen you here this week. Wanted you to know you were not forgotten about here in CRPS-ville (you guys like that one ;)

God said, "my grace is sufficient"
 

Please ignore what they said to you. God loves you, he promised never to give us more than we can bare. ** Suicide is not the answer, Please give God a try, he NEVER FAILS !

God Bless you and Keep you!:)