In the Quiet hours
 

Its about 5.30am in the U.K. as I write this thread, I cant sleep so thought I'd say Hi to all my cyber friends.

It's been a while since i last wrote on here, but i read daily [I'm just a lurker by nature. l.o.l.]

It's been a crazy past few months this side of the world, and too be quite honest exhausting!!.

It's been a strange year 2009: and i was lay in bed tossing and turning thinking, i hope next year is a better one. No illness would be nice, though i just think that wish.... is tempting fate.
A year where War and the threat of War could be paused..would be even nicer.

Nearly every day i see on the news another British soldier has been killed in Afghanistan, Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

A new year where i learn a whole bunch of new things would be great, and a year where i didn't forget so much would be better [or is that just age catching up with me?]

A new year where i meet new people who add further ingredients to my Casserole of life. And a new dustbin where i can firmly place unwanted garbage that i collect along the way.

A new year where 'I CANT' becomes 'I CAN' [or at least 'I WILL TRY MY BEST]

A new year where HOPE is still my anchor, and AMBITION is still my goal.


And above all a new year where WISDOM comes from everything i do.


I sincerely care for you all, and though not always posting think about you often.:grouphug:

David.

There's my wise friend.....I really listened to the words of that song this morning David...maybe heard them for the first time.

"They just got out and walked"....my husband has a poster hanging in his den that says "If there is no wind....row".

Sometimes in the wee hrs. when we can't sleep, wisdoms flows or maybe seeps out of the best of us and we can reflect on what it is we want, need and hope for in our lives.

My personal opinion is that one can't do more than Try Their Best. :grouphug:

You've been missed!

Brilliant wisdom!

I'm very overwhelmed with warmth to know so many of us feel the same darn feelings.

Thank you David :hug:

When you share with us, you once again become a part of making me who I am today!

And thank you Alffe :hug:


I gather such strength from this forum... it really is a treasure!

:sing: Addy

:hug: DMAC :hug:
I love this thread

(((David))) I think we can have those things if we think we can. :hug:

We all love you and have missed you dear wise friend !!!!

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

<------------------- comes out of lurk mode to thank David for this inspirational post!!

Thanks


A new year where 'I CANT' becomes 'I CAN' [or at least 'I WILL TRY MY BEST]

A new year where HOPE is still my anchor, and AMBITION is still my goal.

the above will become my New Year mantra!:grouphug:

I was going to seek advice and support from one particular SOSer.......

then i thought...this is a collective forum...a melting pot of opinion and thoughts

so i address this to you all.

On a previous post i mentioned a young man of several attempted suicides.... with him comes a mother who is angry, distraught, lost, confused, ambiguous..etc......................


Both people need the space to TALK..................[1] to each other and [2]also to individuals who have been where they are now.

I have been thinking of setting up an SOS help hep group in the UK..as there is nothing of this nature...plenty of groups for literal successful suicides, and loved ones left behind.....

but not a melting pot like this forum....where both groups meet in the middle.


I think that survivors on both sides of this TABOO can share invaluable dialogue with each other, and some talk is better than none at all.[ if we talked more it may break up/down this disgusting taboo in my humble opinion].


my point is...................i have the work related basis to set this up tomorrow... and have many other agencies i could contact to highlight this idea. [and get many attendees]

my problem is ...i want to do it independently......

QUESTION?????????? HOW DO I DO IT?

your comments are invaluable

Not sure I understand what you are asking....You obviously can get the word out....are you looking for a meeting place? And why would you want to do this "alone"....it's one heck of a responsibility considering what you might run into.....I'm sure you've seen more than your share of desperate people in various stages of their depression. I think it's a good idea David but if it were me, I'd take all the help I could get.

Getting the word out here about our new group has been the big stumbling block but it's early to throw in the towel. Surely wish we had your resources. And no one, no one, wants to talk about suicide including those left behind. ~sigh

Just a couple of days ago, I tore out a two-paragraph article in our local state newspaper about a meeting for the Survivors of Suicide in my state's capital. Immediately, I thought about my friends here on this forum, and I thought, "Something is missing here." I wondered whether to call the contact person or to write to Alffe and ask her for her thoughts. Thankfully, I logged on here where I can talk to all of you about it.

Again, it is the meeting for those left behind. What can I say when my primary need is to survive rather than to try to understand and accept my grandmother's suicide? I've learned so much here because Alffe agreed waaaay back (almost 10 years!) when I challenged her as to just who the "Survivors of Suicide" forum should be for that she could live with a forum that addressed the needs of both! She, I think, had asked for the SOS forum as a place where those who had lost a loved one to death by suicide could meet and talk online. I stumbled onto the forum because I was posting and asking questions about TBI and depression. I'm just so grateful that we found out that we could all meet and talk, whether as a person who was left behind or one who wanted/wants to leave.

David, I hope that you can make a difference there because you make a difference here.

Alffe, thank you for finding room in your heart for me,

reyn