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Swatgen27 12-07-2013 12:06 AM

Easy way out??
 
I've been struggling with this crps beast for 7 years. I was blessed to have the opportunity to work until May 2013. My crps spread from my lower half to my right hand, arm, shoulder and neck in April 2013. I can no longer do the things I love and found myself focusing on my immediate family by helping them live their lives. Today, my family said I should end my life so they can get on with theirs.. I've not contemplated suicide until today. This battle will never get easier and without the support of my loved on I feel like David and Goliat. I'm just so sad after everything that transpired today.

pooh_ac 12-07-2013 01:34 AM

hello
 
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Originally Posted by Swatgen27 (Post 1034870)
I've been struggling with this crps beast for 7 years. I was blessed to have the opportunity to work until May 2013. My crps spread from my lower half to my right hand, arm, shoulder and neck in April 2013. I can no longer do the things I love and found myself focusing on my immediate family by helping them live their lives. Today, my family said I should end my life so they can get on with theirs.. I've not contemplated suicide until today. This battle will never get easier and without the support of my loved on I feel like David and Goliat. I'm just so sad after everything that transpired today.

Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in the family not understanding....However there is no excuse for family to tell you to end your life! Can you see a counselor or therapist who you can talk with. I would should that ever present that kind of statement, I would drag their rumps to you pain doctor or have your therapist. Sending hugz you way..:hug::grouphug:

Kevscar 12-07-2013 02:24 AM

What a throughly evil thing to say. Get out find somewhere else to live and tell them as far as you are concerned they are all dead to you.

Allanira 12-07-2013 04:51 AM

Seriously? I would find a way to give this craps to them. Sorry but I'm a jerk (insert word starting with be for jerk). Don't take the "easy" way out. I live by a good saying when people act like that around me. God don't like ugly. The person that said that was being a selfish jackass. I would have smacked them with my cane. Don't let their negativity get to you. They are jerks and karma will come back and bite them in the but hard. I've been dealing with this for 10 yrs. You can and will get through this low period.

birchlake 12-07-2013 07:30 AM

Swatgen.......

So sorry to hear about those comments from your family. I can't imagine how I would feel if I were in your shoes.

You may have to make some adjustments in your family life and I agree that you should try talking this out with a good friend, therapist, or a family member that you do trust and love.

We're here for you 24/7 too. Post and vent any old time you want! Just the process of writing down your feelings can be helpful.

Hang in there. Your life has much worth no matter what others may say or feel. Don't let this monster of a disorder define you.

Keep us updated........

fbodgrl 12-07-2013 09:01 AM

Wow!

What a horrible thing to say :shocked:

Is there any way you can distance yourself from them...move and cut ties with them??

:grouphug:

moosey2me 12-07-2013 09:40 AM

So Sorry
 
I cannot believe what was said to you!!!I wish I could pop through this screen and hit them,then give you a hug..I would tell them you are done with them,no matter what part of family they are....Ask them how they would like to be in your shoes....Please pray for guideness..Do not let them win,or RSD..We are all here for you..God Bless:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

catra121 12-07-2013 09:40 AM

Wow...just...wow. That is probably the worst thing I can imagine hearing from family. My motto in life is generally that the only people who have the power to hurt me are the ones I care about...and to hear something like that from people I care about would devastate me.

So now you have to decide what you're going to do about it. Suicide...not an option...don't you consider it at all. But perhaps it is time for a new start...a new life. No one deserves to hear what you did...it's cruel, evil, selfish...and you should not be around people like that. You are going through enough without needing that thrown on top of everything else.

Keep us updated and know that we are here for you.

Swatgen27 12-07-2013 10:48 AM

I was hoping after a good nights rest I would miraculously feel better but that is not the case. I'm a very easy going person and tend to not let a lot of things bother me but what was said has shaken me to my very core and my soul. To be honest I'm still trying to figure out what to do... With my support system gone, I feel completely lost. Over the years I have incurred multiplied of instances of discrimination relating to my CRPS but the prior cases are minor compared to yesterday's cruel comments. I will need sometime to get my thoughts in order so I plan on staying with my best friends house (she is my sister from another mother, lol.) I'm overwhelmingly depressed and I know that just being with her will help me.
Thank you for your kind words and great advice. Your comments touched my heart and the words of encouragement lifted my spirits.
Sarah
Xoxoxo

St George 2013 12-07-2013 10:55 AM

WTH ? Really stupid of them
 
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Originally Posted by Swatgen27 (Post 1034870)
I've been struggling with this crps beast for 7 years. I was blessed to have the opportunity to work until May 2013. My crps spread from my lower half to my right hand, arm, shoulder and neck in April 2013. I can no longer do the things I love and found myself focusing on my immediate family by helping them live their lives. Today, my family said I should end my life so they can get on with theirs.. I've not contemplated suicide until today. This battle will never get easier and without the support of my loved on I feel like David and Goliat. I'm just so sad after everything that transpired today.

Hello Dear Swatgen27

I too focus on family and help my mom, the kids and grandkids out as much as I can. I was super everything before this started. But I would sincerely hope that NONE of my immediate family, all 12 of them would ever be so insensitive, evil and just dang stupid to say something like that to me. God please have mercy on these poor, misguided fools.

Who in your immediate family would say something like that to you ?

My heart just hurts for you and I'm so very angry too. Each person is a precious gift from the Lord above.

Please know that we are are here for you and 'ending it' is not an option for u. I agree with everyone else on here that u need a professional to talk to. A third party not involved in the emotions is always helpful from my standpoint.

Stay strong sweet lady and please keep us posted on how it's going for u...WE CARE about you very much.

Debi from Georgia
:grouphug:

I just saw your new post......I am so glad u have somewhere to go. Let your dear sister give u the love and support u need right now.


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