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sciencetoy 07-16-2014 07:04 PM

Turning into a bad, angry mean person.
 
I know everyone says to just wait and we'll get used to the new person we've become, but this is ridiculous.

It was this way from very early in the injury - I've become angry, mean, nasty, physically agressive,

I've had several meds for my situation - antidepressants, anti seizure meds, and every med makes it worse.

Has anyone else had this issue? Any suggestions?

anon1028 07-16-2014 07:08 PM

I've just become bitter. what I would suggest is that you try seeing a psychologist and she will teach you coping skills to deal better with the anger. I know it sounds I
Like the long way to do it but it would help I think

Mark in Idaho 07-16-2014 08:12 PM

I have had problems with such behaviors. It changed for me when the NeuroPsychologist diagnosed these behaviors as due to my injury. Before, I had an attitude that I was entitle to be mad or angry. With help from my wife, I am doing much better.

I still have struggles from time to time but nothing like the misery I created for those around me in the past.

I agree. Counseling to learn coping strategies and how to recognize triggers will be helpful.

My best to you.

Hockey 07-16-2014 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by sciencetoy (Post 1082654)
I know everyone says to just wait and we'll get used to the new person we've become, but this is ridiculous.

It was this way from very early in the injury - I've become angry, mean, nasty, physically agressive,

I've had several meds for my situation - antidepressants, anti seizure meds, and every med makes it worse.

Has anyone else had this issue? Any suggestions?

This is indicative of frontal lobe damage. Given that the front of the skull, with the eye brows are all, is very rough and boney, this is VERY common in TBI patients.

My TBI turned me into the "mommy monster." :(

The good news is that you're aware - and that means you can be treated. Thanks to drugs and behaviour therapy, I am less volatile than I was a few years ago, but I still have outbursts.

I think it can be useful to get help identifying your triggers. (I, for example, hate to be rushed.) Then you - and your family - can work together to keep you away from situations you find provocative.

I do my best, but I hate myself for what they have to endure.

thedude58 07-17-2014 03:20 PM

Ensure that you have good nutrition (fresh veggies and fruit daily) and vitamins may help with depression. I have tried antidepressants twice and it was only a temporary fix for me. Good nutrition is very important.

Sitke 07-17-2014 04:18 PM

Also hate to be rushed, I can go from zero to ten in a second, can't control it.

I can get SO angry over anything, I shout, swear and sometimes throw things, not good, then eventually I calm down.

I know how you feel.

Interesting about the frontal lobes as my MRI shows damage there, at least 7 lesions.

Hockey 07-17-2014 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Sitke (Post 1082963)
Also hate to be rushed, I can go from zero to ten in a second, can't control it.

I can get SO angry over anything, I shout, swear and sometimes throw things, not good, then eventually I calm down.

I know how you feel.

Interesting about the frontal lobes as my MRI shows damage there, at least 7 lesions.

Yes, I can be such a potty mouth. I just lose control. It's like an out of body experience. It makes me want to stay away from people.

Living_Dazed 07-17-2014 10:50 PM

Yes. I've been here too. I don't like to be rushed and chaos drives to be very frustrated. I do take meds and that has helped a lot.

Therapy does help a lot!!!!

Kenjhee 07-18-2014 05:06 AM

Oh, boy...I went from shy, bookish science nerd to quick-tempered, aggressive, gun-toting psycho-bastage. Not all the time, mind you. Something would trigger it, and the flare-up was something to see.

Then it escalates to me threatening a former supervisor's family and a nice misdemeanour criminal threat charge. Well, time to do something about this little problem. Initiate 2 years of therapy. Much easier to defuse the anger now. Just give it a timeout until it settles down.

Also I had a nice store of auxiliary self-control capability from years of martial arts training. I really think this training kept me from translating my violent words to violent actions.

Now with my Man Jesus Christ supervising the pullout from Angerstan, I believe I actually have a chance for some semblance of balance.

Hockey 07-18-2014 05:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Living_Dazed (Post 1083038)
Yes. I've been here too. I don't like to be rushed and chaos drives to be very frustrated. I do take meds and that has helped a lot.

Therapy does help a lot!!!!

Glad to see you back on the board.


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