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Old 07-16-2014, 07:04 PM #1
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Default Turning into a bad, angry mean person.
I know everyone says to just wait and we'll get used to the new person we've become, but this is ridiculous.

It was this way from very early in the injury - I've become angry, mean, nasty, physically agressive,

I've had several meds for my situation - antidepressants, anti seizure meds, and every med makes it worse.

Has anyone else had this issue? Any suggestions?
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I've just become bitter. what I would suggest is that you try seeing a psychologist and she will teach you coping skills to deal better with the anger. I know it sounds I
Like the long way to do it but it would help I think
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I have had problems with such behaviors. It changed for me when the NeuroPsychologist diagnosed these behaviors as due to my injury. Before, I had an attitude that I was entitle to be mad or angry. With help from my wife, I am doing much better.

I still have struggles from time to time but nothing like the misery I created for those around me in the past.

I agree. Counseling to learn coping strategies and how to recognize triggers will be helpful.

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I know everyone says to just wait and we'll get used to the new person we've become, but this is ridiculous.

It was this way from very early in the injury - I've become angry, mean, nasty, physically agressive,

I've had several meds for my situation - antidepressants, anti seizure meds, and every med makes it worse.

Has anyone else had this issue? Any suggestions?
This is indicative of frontal lobe damage. Given that the front of the skull, with the eye brows are all, is very rough and boney, this is VERY common in TBI patients.

My TBI turned me into the "mommy monster."

The good news is that you're aware - and that means you can be treated. Thanks to drugs and behaviour therapy, I am less volatile than I was a few years ago, but I still have outbursts.

I think it can be useful to get help identifying your triggers. (I, for example, hate to be rushed.) Then you - and your family - can work together to keep you away from situations you find provocative.

I do my best, but I hate myself for what they have to endure.
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Ensure that you have good nutrition (fresh veggies and fruit daily) and vitamins may help with depression. I have tried antidepressants twice and it was only a temporary fix for me. Good nutrition is very important.
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Also hate to be rushed, I can go from zero to ten in a second, can't control it.

I can get SO angry over anything, I shout, swear and sometimes throw things, not good, then eventually I calm down.

I know how you feel.

Interesting about the frontal lobes as my MRI shows damage there, at least 7 lesions.
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Also hate to be rushed, I can go from zero to ten in a second, can't control it.

I can get SO angry over anything, I shout, swear and sometimes throw things, not good, then eventually I calm down.

I know how you feel.

Interesting about the frontal lobes as my MRI shows damage there, at least 7 lesions.
Yes, I can be such a potty mouth. I just lose control. It's like an out of body experience. It makes me want to stay away from people.
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Yes. I've been here too. I don't like to be rushed and chaos drives to be very frustrated. I do take meds and that has helped a lot.

Therapy does help a lot!!!!
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Oh, boy...I went from shy, bookish science nerd to quick-tempered, aggressive, gun-toting psycho-bastage. Not all the time, mind you. Something would trigger it, and the flare-up was something to see.

Then it escalates to me threatening a former supervisor's family and a nice misdemeanour criminal threat charge. Well, time to do something about this little problem. Initiate 2 years of therapy. Much easier to defuse the anger now. Just give it a timeout until it settles down.

Also I had a nice store of auxiliary self-control capability from years of martial arts training. I really think this training kept me from translating my violent words to violent actions.

Now with my Man Jesus Christ supervising the pullout from Angerstan, I believe I actually have a chance for some semblance of balance.
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Yes. I've been here too. I don't like to be rushed and chaos drives to be very frustrated. I do take meds and that has helped a lot.

Therapy does help a lot!!!!
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