Who do you talk to?
 

There are time I feel rotten and would feel better if I could just share how I feel with someone else. It seems like every time I try to talk to someone they turn the conversation back to themselves and start telling me how much they ache or how awful they feel. It has gotten to the point that I just don't say anything anymore. As a result, I have no social supports. What do you do?

I mostly come here.....everybody here understands what I'm talking about and can relate. Friends and even family who do not live everyday with MS don't understand. Not their fault.....but they will never get it. Even my own kids who live with me and see how MS affects me act surprised when I can't keep up or have to turn down an invitation.

For me it depends on what I am talking about. However, I know exactly what you mean about people turning the conversation around. People love to talk about themselves, which is OK with me as I like to listen to what others have to say and it takes my mind off my troubles. But if I really need to talk, I will say hey, I need to talk to you about something can you just listen. Most of the time the person will just listen.

For years now, I keep a notebook/journal and write letters to God. In those letters I express what I am feeling about everything and anything. It really helps and even though he is not here in the physical sense, I get my answers/support/needs in the most amazing ways.

For MS, I come in here. Some people go to MS gatherings with their local MS chapter.

Like you, most people want to relate to you by sharing their own pains. It is their way of showing empathy.

MS can be isolating, especially if one is physically limited.

Here, you will find someone that has the same sx and you will always find someone that will say just the right thing by listening to what you have to say.

i go to my wife. shes my best friend and has always made time for me.
no matter what the problem is shes always got an ear i can bend

Sometimes I will write to my good friend who lives out of state. It is good therapy because I can get out what I need to say. Sometimes I talk with my good friend here but I hate to feel like I am calling and complaining. She will listen and try to understand (she's great because she tries and doesn't pretend she does understand). And other times I will write to my good friend who I communicate with, who also has MS, through e-mail. For the more serious things that are really bothering me I come here. This is where I get unconditional support and encouragement. Plus no matter how wacky it sounds, you all will understand exactly what I am saying!

You would think my DD and I would talk, since we both have MS, but we don't....not about MS..:)

I come here, too..:grouphug:

Mostly, I'm a listener, I have a cottage industry of being the amateur therapist to a lot of people.

When I need to talk about me, I start with God, then I talk aloud to myself or the object of my disdain, then I go ballistic in my journal for pages on end. If I still feel like I need to discuss things, I have a couple good friends who are at the ready to hear me out.

Often, all I need is to come here and smack the snot out of DM. It's very therapeutic and please accept my open invitation to join me.

My general nature is typically to seek solutions and fix it. MS is, by far, the most confounding conundrum I've faced. :Bang-Head: :Bang-Head: :Bang-Head: