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02-07-2007, 02:59 AM
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In Remembrance
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My sons are almost carbon copies of their father in almost all of the really important things: sensitivity; empathy; a determination to be the best father they can possibly be.
That's true of Pat, who has three beautiful children; Sean is gay, but he would very much like to adopt; not likely in Sam Brownback's Kansas. Anyway, this is about Pat. He accepted a better job in Western Kansas, depriving us of many opportunities to do grandparent stuff; like spoiling them rotten, filling them with candy, then sending them back to mommy and daddy who will have to deal with three kids bouncing off walls and ceilings for the next 24 hours. Even though we will miss the kids, we know they were an important part of his decision to move. Their new school has a neat program in which parents are invited to have lunch with their kids in the cafeteria. Eight year old Katelin, who is always bouncing around looking like she has to pee, or else (she doesn't really need candy), was delighted. Ten year old Sebastian (CB), loved the idea, but wanted to make sure his father arrived in his uniform. 12 year old Ben, however, was reluctant. He's at that age when having parents isn't cool. He definitely did not want to share lunch with his parents. Pat. loving father that he is (he was a boy once, he remembers), sadly accepted Ben's decision. Lunch with Katie was all that you might expect: she bounced around in her chair just like she does on her feet. Did she come into the world with springs in her butt? During lunch with CB, Pat noticed Ben; who was sitting with his friends and trying to pretend he made the right decision in refusing lunch with his parents. It was a touching sight; one that forced Pat to stand up, walk over to Ben, and kiss him on the forehead. Later, when Ben was walking out, Pat wanted to reassure him that there were no hard feelings about his decision to forgo lunch: He called out; "Ben, I love you". By the time Pat finished telling me this story, we were, of course, laughing like crazy. My wife, who some years ago suspected I was having phone sex with someone (why else would he smile so much?), had become an expert at listening in on my phone calls without my knowing. She always turns the TV all the way down first, for example. Anyway, she had been listening, and she wasn't happy: She began telling us that we were maliciously cruel and Pat had probably destroyed Ben's life. I interupted her to point out that she was being **** retentive again. Besides, the only thing Pat did wrong was kiss Ben on the forehead. He should have kissed him square on the lips. Well, that started her on another tirade, but when Pat began to talk, she went quiet to hear what he was going to say. "I thought of kissing him on the lips" Pat said, "But I couldn't be that cruel. That's why you will always be the master. You have no conscience whatsoever". We are both wondering who will give in an talk to him first: Ben or my wife. We should find out in two or three weeks...Vic
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