LOL... okay, I guess that does sound weird, but true nonetheless. Thanks for the laugh.

Me too, I used to be a meticulous, Type A personality about my house and yard. Now I am just grateful for the help I get, even if it is teenager clean, instead of mom clean. I have learned to close doors and look the other way until we can all work as a team. I used to love working in my yard, and took great pride in a job well done. Now the house/yard is just too damn big, too many levels, and it all just kind of overwhelms me now. I’m lucky to get one room done, and then that’s it for me. Drives me crazy to watch or request work be done. In my mind I’m saying “no problem; you can do everything you used to do”. My body says, ”are you nuts! I don’t think so, or you will pay in degrees of pain”. Would much rather just do it myself, my way. Although I am truly blessed that my husband and my children love me, and they do their best. I feel sure this is God teaching me to let go. So now I just write my name in the dust.

My cleaning person is a whirlwind. I can remember manically cleaning, but it was in a time--long, long ago.

Accepting your limitations is not easy, but important.

Accepting your limitations is not easy, but important.[/QUOTE]

Amen. So true, and something I am working on. I have spent a good deal of time since I got RSD 7 years ago in denial, then grieving for my former self. I am working on acceptance now.

Some days I get a burst of energy and start cleaning, but never seem to get it done. It's so embarrassing, but most of my friends know the deal. I am seriously getting rid of so much by using the trash bag idea...little by little it's getting done

The first thing you say to them.......Hey there's a real cool motel nearby.....

Dear Vrae,
I totally agree with what Jimbo just said...steer them to the nearest motel! If they see your house the way it is then tell them sorry I can't do things quickly anymore and need at least a month's notice in order to get my home cleaned up. If they don't get that hint then the heck with them. You don't need the stress nor the extra pain cleaning the house for them and it is not fair to your kids and hubby for added stress to them. They already deal with so much each day. I had another idea...when they call to say they are on the way...give them a bit of what they are doing to you and say "Well, we will all meet you at the restaurant (tell them the name of it). When you are all done you and your family get up and leave and tell them thanks so much for stopping by on your honeymoon and call me again when things settle down for you. lol that should keep them out of your hair for a bit. Good luck.
kathy d

You guys/gals are the best! Thank you for the support, co-sign on my sanity, and laughs when I really needed to laugh. Getting ****** about it only makes things flare, so better to just laugh and say to myself.... "w-h-a-t-e-v-e-r sista"!

Right! That's exactly what I did.