I am just trying to decide whether or not I should keep attending my psychologist appointments or not? I was extremely bothered last time, and I don't know if I want to go back.....

[finz]

What were you bothered by ?

[birchlake]

Counseling is not effective unless it's a good "fit". You must like the psychlogist/counselor, and you must feel like you're making some progress and that the sessions help.

If they don't, switch professionals. Don't be afraid to give this one the boot. My sister had to see three psychologists before she found one that really took the time to understand her situation and could help her.

Originally Posted by finz

What were you bothered by ?

What bothered me was how he told me that I was coming off as argumentative, whether or not I actually said what I was saying to him, to others, or if I said it to others in my mind. That caught me off guard, and I didn't understand why he would say that. He asked me a question that I tried to explain to him about my rsd. Then he kind of made fun of how I guard my hand, saying that I looked like I was praising god. Really?? He is the last person that I would've thought that would make fun of me how kids at my school did. -_-. Then, there were some things I just didn't want to talk about, and it bothered me terribly; including all of this.

Do you have rsd? If so, where, and how bad is it?

Originally Posted by birchlake

Counseling is not effective unless it's a good "fit". You must like the psychlogist/counselor, and you must feel like you're making some progress and that the sessions help.

If they don't, switch professionals. Don't be afraid to give this one the boot. My sister had to see three psychologists before she found one that really took the time to understand her situation and could help her.

I completely understand what you are saying. I just don't know if I am bothered by not wanting to talk about my thoughts and crying; which I hate, or if I was bothered by how, almost kind of rude he was in way. Or, if it is a combination of both.
I told my parents I don't want to go back, but I don't know at this point.

[LIT LOVE]

Why don't you pm someone here that you trust about the details you don't want to write about publicly? You should also be able to discuss these issues with your primary doc, who should have an idea of the feedback is out of line. If the therapist has an extensive history of pain patients, his comments about your guarding are odd. You probably do need to switch, but getting the feedback from someone that knows you is a good idea.

[painman2009]

Originally Posted by lema56

I completely understand what you are saying. I just don't know if I am bothered by not wanting to talk about my thoughts and crying; which I hate, or if I was bothered by how, almost kind of rude he was in way. Or, if it is a combination of both.
I told my parents I don't want to go back, but I don't know at this point.

Hello.. in response to your concerns.. well first it is always up to you what you share, how much and with whom. that is just the way it goes. second if you are seeing a shrink and you don't want to. then you will not get any positive results and there fore pointless to go. I feel if you want to open up. why should you pay someone to listen. thats just weird, that said I have a shrink.. I haven't really said much to him except what i feel he wants to hear. (again pointless and a waist of time.) but on another note I come onto this site or others like air and vent. I can honestly say this much. I have still not been completely forth coming regarding every thing I feel, but here I don't really need to be as I have seen others explain how I feel. or things I am having difficulty with. this site and others like it have helped me keep somewhat SAIN. Now I am not saying don't go to a shrink, that is your choice. but unfortunately the only advice I can give is you hold this answer on what to do. If the dr makes you uncomfortable though then maybe you should consider a change. .. I wish you luck with your decision. It can't be en easy one.. best wishes and soft hugs to you

[Imahotep]

Originally Posted by lema56

What bothered me was how he told me that I was coming off as argumentative, whether or not I actually said what I was saying to him, to others, or if I said it to others in my mind. That caught me off guard, and I didn't understand why he would say that. He asked me a question that I tried to explain to him about my rsd. Then he kind of made fun of how I guard my hand, saying that I looked like I was praising god. Really?? He is the last person that I would've thought that would make fun of me how kids at my school did. -_-. Then, there were some things I just didn't want to talk about, and it bothered me terribly; including all of this.

Do you have rsd? If so, where, and how bad is it?

It's really hard for people to understand RSD since we don't understand it ourselves. Many people are of the opinion that disease is earned or in the mind and if any disease appears to be just in the head this one must be it. When I was healthy I was like like this through ignorance and a little lack of concern. There are still a lot of people in the medical and psychiatric professions who think most disease is all in the head. They only consider a disease real if they can cure it.

I talked to a few psychologists and "social workers" when first diagnosed and they had some excellent suggestions. Not all of them worked but they were very aware of the condition and treatments. Probably some people are much more likely to be helped by talk than others and this might especially apply to people who don't ponder their situation before or after contracting the disease. Part of dealing with this is coming to accept it and I'm sure they helped me with this a little. Maybe you need someone more familiar with this disease to talk to but be sure this one can't help before dumping him.

A lot of us have short fuses and are edgy and he might just be picking up on this. Try explaining that it's hard dealing with pain and all the other symptoms so sometimes you might be a little quick to anger.