So after having some problems. The doctors are sure I'm going to miscarry. I do in tomorrow for a final confirmation....but they are sure. My hormone (HCG) levels have dropped from 2788 to 1941 in a week.,.....so many emotions

Oh no songbird I'm so sorry. You must be devastated. I will hope that this is not the case, but if it does happen, just try to remember that none of this is your fault. Life can be very cruel sometimes, but you will get past this and smile again... I miscarried several years ago (pre-CRPS) and it was a terrible time, but we got through it.

I'm not religious, but if something isn't meant to be then there's nothing you can do about it. Take care of yourself as best you can, and I'll be thinking of you

Bram.

Unfortunately....I've started spotting so...they're probably right. I know it happens, and usually for a reason. It just doesn't stop my heart from breaking. I'm trying to stay strong but I seem to cry all the time. I feel so depressed. It just hurts so much....Thanks Bram I do appreciate it.

So sorry you are going through this. My heart goes out to you right now even though we've never met... I understand the pain as I have been through it many times myself. Big hugs.

Oh you poor girl I'm sending you a across the skies...

The following is meant to be helpful, I hope it is at least a little.

Try not to panic, keep yourself warm and cosy, and have someone kind around if you can. Keep hydrated (cups of tea are warming and comforting) and eat when you can, and don't plan to do anything for at least a few days. Your body will ache and the changes in hormone levels will make you very emotional. Tissues and chocolate nearby help a tiny bit. All you can do is take something like paracetemol, and just ride out the storm.

It's a terrible thing to happen, but if miscarriage happens it's usually because there is a problem with the developing foetus, and your body has to protect you from a potentially very serious complication. It's not because of you or anything you have done.

I was at around 2-3 months when I miscarried, and it was like a very bad period. It started with bad stomach aches that went on for several days, and the bleeding was heavy. I bled on and off for several weeks afterwards, and after going to my doc was reassured by my him and a specialist that this was normal in the circumstances. I felt crappy for weeks to be honest. You have to take it very easy on yourself and let your body recover. Try to keep your mind busy even if your body is drained of energy. Of course you sit and sob and despair, and it's healthy to let all that emotion out, but when you can just read or watch films, anything that distracts you for a while.

You will get through this and smile again. There is an old saying: 'This too will pass', and you have to try to believe it, even in the midst of all your hurt.

I am thinking of you and hoping you are as well as you can be. I wish I could help, but I know it's one of those things where no one really can. PM me if u want to, I'll be checking in regularly.

Hang on in there

Bram.

I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself. Hugs.

I am trying. I know it will get better in time. But that doesn't really ease the hurt now. ya know? It just seems cruel to me to get pregnant so off chance and then turn around and have it ripped away... I have opted to have a D&C which is scheduled for Thursday. That's if I don't miscarry by then. Im kind of hoping not. I would like to have it done in one fell swoop so to speak. I know I just cant stand this waiting. It's nerve wracking. There is no heart beat and it has not developed beyond 4 weeks so we know it's not "viable"..... I just....I just want it over now...my heart cant stand this pain much longer

At least you don't have to wait too long. Take things very quietly and try to stay calm until Thursday. I'm so sorry this has happened to you, hard to come to terms with something so unfair.

Bram.

Bram,

Thank you. I appreciate the caring....my fiancé is being very supportive so that helps a lot. But right now I can use all the support I can get. seriously, thank you

I am so sorry for what you are going through songbird. Life is so unfair isn't it!?! I am glad your fiancé is being supportive, and you know you will find lots of support here too!
Nanc