Hi Pete,
Sorry about your tooth. How are you feeling? Thinking about something you mention in your post, your children have bad feelings because of your ex. They must have felt left out? I know they would be proud of you fight for your house and heirlooms. Because I know you aren''t fighting just for yourself-you are fight for your children's inheritance.
That would make them feel good, loved, if they knew.
Hope your new attorney can file something first thing Monday a.m. before anything gets signed. Please know we are thinking of you. Take care, loretta

Hey Friends,
I'm keep on Keepin'' on!

I got one attorney on his cell earlier, his wife answerred, (he didn't want to talk while driving, and I respect that), I was promised a call this evening. Althought It's just about 7PM here.
I'll be up early I reckon.

One day to file something.
Talk about bringing it to the line.

Thank you all for you kind thoughts,
Boy, and I gonna feel like a loser if I let this go down!

love You' all!

Pete
asb...

AintSo--if you are anything lime me, between the RSD, the pain and the meds, I have found that my mind does NOT :function" as it USED to--therefore, I have found it VERY helpful when contacting my atty with questions/issues, to WRITE THEM DOWN! That way, I have my "to-do list" for my atty, and I ALWAYS write down what HE says, lest I forget later!!!

The one thing that I have found, being in the legal profession and NOW, being a client, is that YOU know YOUR case MUCH BETTER than ANY attorney!! It is important to remenber that our attorneys have a LOT on their "plate" as well--deadlines, court appearances, depositions and so forth.

So, although we tend to "think" that because we DO have an atty, we can just "sit back" and let HIM do ALL the "work"! Well, I found out that this is NOT true!!!!

As a client, I have found that it is really important to find out exactly HOW your atty prefers that you contact hiom with questions, additional information, etc.

Some attormey prefer that you E--mail them with your concerns, with a follow-up fax all other "evidence" that you have concerns about...while other attys prefer that you leave a detailed mesage with their secretary. COMMUNICATION is THEY KEY to EFFECTIVE assistance from an atty, so a lot is up to you and the attorney to agree on HOW he wishes you to communicate, and what HE thinks/considers an "emergency"!!!

IF you DO consult with a new attorney to rep you, do the best you can to get EVERYTHING that can possibly can, and ORGANIZE IT!!! Again, prepare a list of your issues and concerns. Most initial consultations are ususally free, so you want to MAXIMIZE the limited amount of time you have douring the consult!

I have also found that when considereing changeing attorneys, it is best NOT to mention "red flag words" like "MALPRACTICE" or OTHER indications of negligence onb the part of your former attorney. Usually, it is best just to INITIALLY say that the COMMJUNICATION was "lacking", you couldn't "connect", or something to that effect....

If you have as much of your case-file that you can get, and other court documents and evidence etc, that you can get your hands on, and ORGANIZED, I have found that MOST attorneys WILL see the "writing on the wal" as to the INCOMPETENCE of your CURRENT attorney, without YOU being the one to have to pont it out!!!!

It is a shame that your current attorney has let you down--and to NOT show up for a COURT APPERANCE is INEXCUSABLE!!! ANd, IMHO, the Presiding Judge should NOT have gone forward woith your Hearing/case, KNOWING that your atty was NOT THERE TO REP YOU!!!! The Judge SHOULD have continued your Hearing, and SANCTIONED your attorney for failure to show, but that is just my "humble Opinion", and something that a NEW and COMPETENT attorney should address!

Aint--is is CRITICAL for you to EDUCATE yourself as MUCH AS POSSIBLE concern the Divorce laws in YOUR state!!! As they say, KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!!!!!!!

Fortunatley, the legal system, even in Divorve Court, provides for an APPEALS PROCESS, should EITHER party believe that the Judge erred on either his/her INTERPRETATION of the law, and/or the FACTS/EVIDENCE, or "abused his discretion"...Accordingly, IF your Ruling form the Judge on your current case is NOT favorable to you, then I can NOT emphasize ENOUGH just HOW CRITICAL is is for you to either goet on the "same page " with your CURRENT attorney, OR, FIND A NEW ONE who UNDERSTANDS THE ISSUES and WILL rep you!

There are STRICT DEADLINES for filing an Appeal, a Petition for Reconsideration, or whatever your State's statutes and regulations are concerning Divorce Proceedings! IF you BLOW THE DEADLINE to APPEAL (called the "Statute of Limitations", then you are SCREWED!

As I indicated before, Mike has given you INVALUABLE suggestions, and while I do not wish to be presumptuous, I think that it would be a VERY good idea to Private Message Message Mike for some additional input!

That being said, you spuld give yourself a HUGE pat on the back for RECOGNIZING that "something is rotten in Denmark", and have INQUIRED about it here on the Forums!!! Y0ou would be AMAZED about just how MANY people just "take it for GOSPEL" and do NOT QUESTION a THING when they DO have an atty to rep them!!!!

Again, best wishes to you!!!! Get busy, get PROACTIVE and START LEARNING about the Divorce Laws in your State!!!!

Most Sincerely,
Brokenwings

Just thinking of you and hope things look up soon. Keep fighting.You deserve better

HEY YA'LL
This is still, WAR.

I can't stand it!
You know, why can't a person be fair, and let me at least have the furniture I came with?
The house is a totally diff/ subject, that I'm even willing to talk about that makes me ill!

Agghhh!

Sorry, gotta go be ill......

Thank, for all your love!!!!

Pete

I really want to take the time, to thank all you Good Folks, for supporting me.
You only know one side of this story, I may have beatin my wife from one side of the state to the other. (for all you know) You haven't heard her side, is my point.


But, I think ya'll know me a bit better than that, so I'll tell you a couple things that your prayers have produced!

I got a call from my "ex" divorce attorney. He is pro-actively looking for my file, and hopes to retrieve it soon. (that will make all the liar out of my soon to be ex)! This file has my Pre-Nup, and other important files in it, that will cut wifey's claims off, at the knee. Sorry!



Then, I got a call from Dr Knobler's wife. She is an "Angel". She's had RSD herself, along with Breast Cancer. She also met my "wifey" many times, and she called, when I was in a "weak spot" (I was crying). And so, she started prodding me. I told her in short comments, what was up, and she "got it". She remembered my wife, for trying to take accolades, for looking "so good" for having Six Children!, but, she didn't, she had four, I had two. (well my first wife had two ), but, wifey was Happy to take on the compliments.

This reeked as fake.

Anyway, Mrs Knobler, who is one of my heroes, told me, that ANYTHING I need written by the doctor, for my divorce case (Nothing that's untrue, mind you), would be "Rushed Through" by herself, personally!

Now, how is this for God answering a prayer?

I want to Thank You All!
I am one of those, who believe in the power of Prayer!

And, I have one more BIG thing to do.
That is, to get in touch with the attorney, whom I was "confused into testifying, that I put my wife's name on deed of my house"/ I NEVER DID, but, between her family and mine, we own four homes on the same street. I was in the midst of my TBI. She took my "book" that I was highlighting with side effects of my injury, and showed her attorney how to use it against me.
He Did!

Why, would I put anyone's name on my home, that I built to my spec's for RSD, and bought once from my first wife??? Makes no sense!

Anyway, questions, I'll answer,
but, this is to
THANK YOU ALL!

Pete

Blessings on You!

I am so happy that Life is looking up for you, Pete!