Dorrie,
I believe in God, and pray daily for peace in my home.

Deep breaths, it is a teenagers job to break you, suck the marrow from your bones , someone very wise said to me 'Just live long enough' .

Hang in there, they grow up eventually. My fridge has a magnet given to me long ago- "Better ask your teenagers NOW while they still know EVERYTHING!".

Now I have to figure out what I want to be when I grow up

Take care, it all works out for a reason.

I too pray that this will be a turning point Dorrie, for your relationship with your daughter and your daughter herself. It sounds like you have more than enough love in your heart, and hopefully your daughter will see that now, after having lived in that shelter for a while. May God bless you both at this time.

Idealist

just wanted to check in and see how things are going, Dorrie?

I do hope it is working out ok having your daughter home and that your own health and strength are holding up

thoughts and prayers lifted for you

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. I was just zipping thru as I haven't been here all week and saw your post Chemar. Just like you to think of others when your life is so full of difficulties. How are you..and how is your hubby? Silly question I know but I have thought about you each and every day..Please know that you are in my daily prayers! Katie and I are not doing too well at all. he came home and slept and does the dishes while I went to work but spent very little time here. Last night she decided not to come home at all. I told her from the get go that I will not tolerate that kind of behaviour and that if she did not come home by curfew each night that she could not stay here. She called this AM and tried to come out with excuses but I told her that she needs to find somewhere else to stay. I did not sleep and had to go to work today for a 10 hour shift. My sugars are high which makes me extremely tired. I stayed the day and now I am exhausted and aching. My sugars are still high but I can't do any more to try to get them down. I was very physically active all day...now I am just emotionally and phsically drained. I really hope I sleep tonigh. I contantly think about Katie and I am very worried...I wish that I wasn't as I am sure that would help my sugar levels but I have so much anxiety over it all. I just cannot understand why she would push the limits so soon and not really care about what I would do? She knows that when there is a big upset that my sugars just fly and seems to be oblivious to how what she is doing effects my health. Sorry for going on, Cheri....I need to stop chatting about it. Thank you for caring...God Bless you, sweetie

Hello Dorrie

I work with children/adolescents who some may say politely challenging?

Your daughter must be made to read this post.

When you are born ito this world the one-and-only rule you must stand by is respect other people, without this philosophy in life you will sadly encounter trouble and ruin, You are now mature enough to know right from wrong, you are obviously not yet wise enough to truly understand right from wrong. Wisdom comes from listening to those who have been before you in voice or word. When the time comes for the Penny to drop in your mind , that your life is spiraling out of control, i hope at this point all of your BRIDGES have not been burnt..

SOLOUTIUON,,,,, listen to those who love you because they truly want the best for you, You just dont know it yet..[DONT LEAVE IT TO LATE]

Thanks David. I will make sure that she reads it. I think that this is what I am most afraid of....Katie burning all of her bridges. I think she may have and that is why I let her back. I really thought she might be a little thankful that she was not out on the street. I really think that I am getting in the way of things unfolding the way they are supposed to. I think that I enable her to continue her behaviour by saving her. It is so hard not to. It tears at my heart and makes my feel unexplainably sad inside. I do believe that if I let her come back again she will do it again and again. Nothing changed in her. I changed as I cannot take it anymore..healthwise.Thanks for your post. Take Care, David

Dorrie

As the wonderful Mother that i am sure you are, you are doing your best, by your daughter, but there comes a time when children grow up and become ADULTS ..............and have to act accordingly.

Katie i am a complete stranger to your mother, until this evening i have never encountered her. But may i say this Wonderful Woman loves you deeply, and cares for you emensely, at this time and moment, life may be difficult for you, but Life unfortunately Sucks,.......... and persecuting your mum is certainly not going to help YOU. ...........when she is not there to help you, ...... life will feel more lonely and tortured than it does now. [kindly and i mean this sincerly you only get one mother in life cherish her]
Dorrie take care of YOU!!!!

Hi David. Thank you. I think for whatever reason, I sometimes need to hear from others that it is OK to take care of myself. I know that when we have kids they are our responsibility.I was a single mom for alot of years. My kids both know that I love them tremendously and I always expess that love towards them.... We have had a very difficult time over the years. I am a recovering alcoholic...sober 7 years on July 30 2007. My drinking did affect my kids but I have spent the last almost 7 years making amends for the past. I do believe I have shown her how sorry I am for long enough. I love her so much, but the stress of all of this is really making me sick. I pray to God for answers. I ask for his guidance and sit quietly and wait. In my heart I think that I need to get out of the way and let him take the reins. I alway tell Katie there are two paths in life....the right one and the wrong one and it all has to do with the choices that we make. This seems so straightforward and it is....however it does not appear to be in her plans at the present time to take the right path. Thank you again, David...your help is always welcome and truly appreciated....Dorrie

Dorrie, yes, it IS hard when we love someone and yet they are living a life that we know is harming them, us and others!

You HAVE to take care of you Dorrie, cos if you are not ok, then your ability to handle all this is impaired........

One thing is sure Dorrie, altho your own past mistakes and lifestyle may not have been the best example to her, yet I have seen kids make awful choices even when they come from the most "perfect" environments...so....where it is good that you can honestly reflect on your own faults and failings..and yes, there are consequences that resulted from those......still. you are not responsible for the choices your daughter has made, is making or will make.....those are her choices and her consequences. Personal accountability doesnt disappear because there are some extenuating circumstances

I do pray that she is safe Dorrie, and that God will orchestrate events in her life to help her make wiser choices and to realize that life has so much more for her than a downward spiral

And for you dear Dorrie, my prayers are that God would draw you into a peaceful place, where you truly can lay all these worries and burdens down with the certain knowledge that He can take it ALL and work it ALL together for good.

((((Dorrie))))


with love
Cheri